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Should he worry about any and all conversations you had with men you dated BEFORE him? Idk why you even need to go to the internet for this.

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I would probably take the same position tbh: it’s awkward to take at your SOs parents house, and usually tiring because you’re on your best behaviour and trying to be courteous, and you’re also introducing elements of him being an emotional crutch for hard conversations. Who wouldn’t dread this type of visit?

Beyond that, it’s possible he doesn’t want to be stranded at their place for so many days at a time, and has other priorities that are on his mind that he could accomplish in that time. Could he visit for just one night so it’s more manageable and reasonable?

wait a week or 2 then send him the exact same messages and see if you can get him to whack off to them. thatll tell you what you need to know. if hes some textual delinquent you should break up

By now he probably finds it all unbearable to deal with and he just doesn't feel comfortable being in your parent's house while you, yourself, are not comfortable. So, unless that dynamic changes then I don't see why he'd ever look forward to it and he likely can't give you a straight answer because you are pushy and do not take no for an answer.

If you do want to reiterate it, then by all means but be sure to carry that same energy for your parents.

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Yes I think the same. Whatever she have shared, we managed very well and she is happy about that. But don't want to talk about other things,

only hope. shit maybe the dude is mind fucking us all and is only staying with her for sex and until he kind find someone better.

Yeah true

Nah it was just general messages, a little flirty but nothing horny really

This isn’t a just a mistake. Cheating fundamentally breaks trust. Whenever she goes somewhere or is texting too much, his first thought will be is she cheating again and lying to my face?

Yeah, sure thank buddy

was the old message, super long and horny or was it just a random message he forgot to delete. do you think he's whacking off to a single text message?

As time passes by, men can start having problems with their "thingy" It happens more that we know because they are rarely let the partner know and prefer to keep their distance out of embarrassment

It sounds like she’s the victim of sexual abuse & thinks you’ll leave her because she’s not a virgin.

Telling this horrible part of her life is painful - but she did want to tell you bc she kept bringing it up.

She probably needs psychological help, but I imagine this isn’t possible.

All you can do is keep talking to her.

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That last paragraph is so toxic I don't even know what to say to that lol

I do hope OP makes better decisions and I hope her bf finds someone who talks about issues instead of cheating. Maybe that will be OP XD

I would never take back someone who cheated and I can't say I understand the people who do. I would forgive in the sense that I wouldn't carry hate in my heart or wish anything bad happened to them, but I would never get back with them. Cheating doesn't inherently make you a bad person, but I think continuous lying and deceiving someone you "love" does. People can obviously change and learn from it which I hope they do. A good friend of mine cheated once on his ex, he felt true remorse and confessed himself the next day, they broke up and he focussed on himself and became a better person

Yes.

He went above and beyond to reassure you over something that (in my mind) was a non-issue. He had a couple of texts with someone before you guys got serious? Come on, OP. He had a life before you.

Let it go.

"No, I'd like to keep my phone to myself." "Cool, hand it over. u/tinaxbelcher said it was the right time if I asked, regardless of whether you consented."

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Thank you, this is what i needed I know i want to be with her and i want to trust her Its just so new the trust hasnt been built yet and i have issues of my own ive been working on But i feel like im not allowed to be upset about things because i want to be with her so i feel insane, thank you