Let him have an open relationship on his end. You deserve to know he’s railing and enjoying another woman’s body while you sit at your home alone in shame.

After I got out of a unhealthy relationship that I got into while getting divorced I decided to spend time reflecting on myself and taking care of my kids. It lasted two years. I'm now engaged. Where you are now is nit where you may be in a few years

One of the weird things about a liar is that when you’ve caught them, it’s easy to ruminate and focus on trying to figure out all the truths from the lies. You have no need to contact her. He’s already proven than you can’t trust him

I mean break up if you're unfulfilled... If he takes her back it teaches her nothing...

I really believe if she was going to prove it, it would have to happen after they break up to give him time to heal. They don't have kids and are not married, it just seems like a lot of work when dude could be happy and himself with someone else.

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Can you rent month to month at that rate or is it fixed term?

Tbh, that’s really weird and unnecessary. He wasn’t just an ex who she strictly hung out with, but someone who she was sleeping with prior to you. There’s literally no point in going out with an ex as a ‘goodbye’ lmao. As a 21f myself, I can see through her intentions. It’s probably hard for her to let him go, they probably fucked. But at the end of the day, it comes down to how much you trust her

So .... you dont trust her, stop lying to yourself mate. If you did then her meeting an ex wouldnt be a problem.

And what about your child? What’s best for them?

I understand. But does that mean we shouldn't forgive someone for making a bad decision? I am not advocating for cheating i am just saying, people can fuck up multiple times and still be fixed and can become a good person

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If they are dead or missing.

He already took you back once. You know what the saying is?

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me"

You fooled him once when you said you wouldn't cheat again. He's not going to let you fool him a second time.

Maybe you should learn how to open your mouth and talk about how what's wrong instead of jumping into someone else's bed.

Yes, your maturity levels are different. You sound like you are about 19 and he's about 12.

Going out until the next morning and bringing home three women is not 'an argument over small things'. 'My friends wanted to bring them home, I had no say in the matter sorry/not sorry!'

Oh and I'm sure the women were sober enough to consent to whatever the fuck all happened?

When I wanted to facetime him he looked annoyed and said it would be awkward if I facetimed him because they were having deep conversations.

What the actual fuck.

If you break up with him, he will have all the time in the world for his deep conversations.

COME ON, OP. If a friend of yours sent you this, what would you tell her?

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Deep conversations. Haha. At 6am after clubbing. And how strange, 3 girls for - let me count - 2 guy friends? Oh no, he is also there and magically it adds pefect. 3 girls and 3 boys. At his house. After spending the whole night together dancibg and drinking. I'm sure they talked about politics and climate change, haha.

Break up. He brought girls with home to fuck. He lied to you. He is not your bf.

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maybe so or maybe not. But people can change after making the same mistake multiple times. I really think the only way the relationship works is if she proves with her actions (not her words) that she not going to cheat again; like going to therapy, being transparent and open not engaging in shady shit etc. Not saying its right but when someone cheats it's usually because the other partner wasn't doing something fulfilling

Thats where im struggling, i trust her, i dont think that anything happened. I just feel like weird about the whole thing like im bothered by the fact she went and hung out with her ex regardless of the circumstances. I dont want to be that person tho

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Either she did what she said or she got the D one last time. In the end if you trust her you trust her, and if you dont you dont.

Cheating isn't a mistake, it's a conscious series of decisions. A mistake is dropping a glass or forgetting to take out the trash.

It’s not okay, ever imo. To me my partner going through my phone either means they’re insanely insecure, don’t trust me, are projecting their mistrust or all of the above. Can they use my phone to order food or call/text someone if their phone is dead? Yes. But going through my texts/social media dms etc? Complete violation of my privacy. That being said I have nothing to hide, ever so if they ask then yeah sure, but it’ll also completely change my view of them.

You're a serial cheater leave him alone. Also you didn't come clean, coming clean would mean confessing without getting caught. Have you thought about what you did to make be that way towards you? I doubt he just decided he wanted to sleep in another room, you only mentions his behavior, but what caused him to do that? Your remorse is never gonna be sincere, because you have already done it once and then you do it again? You're right your boyfriend does deserve better. Focus on yourself, discover why you keep cheating before getting in a relationship

He forgave once if I am reading right... I do agree he may take her back who knows but she will cheat again if he does. "accidentally" of course.