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Happens to most couples. If you’re the guy , it’s because you’re not good enuf in bed and/or knowing when/when not to initiate. If you’re the girl, it’s because the challenge/mystique has gone. Logically Taking about it isn’t gonna help

Relationships do require energy to maintain. So, it can be a hassle if you don't want to spend energy on them. And it's okay not wanting to invest in them.

There is no such thing as enjoying being single too much. No amount of enjoying being single is ever too much. Enjoy it to your heart's content.

Well, no point in worrying about dying alone, we all die alone inevitably. Even with people on our deathbed, we die alone.

You put consistent effort on your side so that you won't have to complain for lack of foreplay and whatnot. If they refuse to pull their own weight even then and you need more then then there is likely no other choice but to leave. You might just be sexually incompatible.

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Your post makes you sound superficial and selfish. You're asking why she won't look a certain way because it's what you like, what about what she likes or wants. Why can't you love her enough to accept her changes?

You say you would do it for her if she asked but has she asked? Or does she love you enough to accept any changes you make in your physical appearance without having a tantrum?

She made changes to her appearance and you are focused on you in this, ignoring that those changes could be the result of something deeper going on with her.

Everyone on here bashing her and yes she is being difficult but take into account that they never dated or even had a relationship prior to the marriage. They don't even know each other as people let alone how to interact, live together or be married. This whole thing was a terrible way to start a relationship.

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Unfortunately you're thinking was very naive and no wonder this relationship is failing. You married someone you didn't even know (which under some circumstances can work with negotiations and good match making) but this sounds like a marriage of convenience or a rush but not love or even any other stable benefit. There was no foundation. There most likely is absolutely no sexual or romantic attraction here.

Lol when I heard major appearances changes, I think we all know what that is typically a sign of.

Anyone think he should take a look at phone records any time soon?

It's the flip side of, Why wouldn't you support the fashion choices of the person you love?

Everyone should have the freedom to express themselves through their appearance, you can't ask for that.

However, you can ask for her to put more work into your relationship with smaller gestures of love. Or look up love languages and tell her that you want her to express her love through that. And of course do the same.

Just don't expect someone to change or wear certain things just to please you.

If her getting a haircut makes you unable to even have sex with her anymore I don't think u were every rlly attracted to her to begin with

I should also say she's had seizures in the past but that's gotten better and isn't much of a thing anymore. Caused by stress/anxiety.

But has she ever let you pick what to wear or how to style herself? Also as a woman I just have to say I would hate for someone else to chose how I look. Yes I ask my boyfriend for opinions, like should I wear this skirt or this, or should I buy this thing etc. But I know if it was entirely up to him I’d be wearing a different style. And I can say that if I had to weak stuff that I don’t like (on myself), that I feel don’t fit my personality and style I’d be miserable. I’d be insecure and having more insecurities than I already have. It’s hard to describe but style for me is really an expression of personality, art and mostly how I want to be viewed and view myself.

And again have you talked to her about stuff like that, her feelings about her appearance, style etc?

Than I would suggest bring those other issues up with communication. if there was something that triggered the change in her, you should let her know you would like to understand.

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Thanks I mean I hope so, we get along and haven't had any major fights so.

Things will work out 💯 % All long distance ones can happen if one works hard. Good luck 🤞

do what you want then bro.

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I mean we get along really well haven't had any fights and love each other. I can get past the long distance cause that won't be permanent but just with a lot of her issues in the past and stuff it's hard to get her to visit and we're a year in.

As long as she is able to control you, nothing will change. Deny her a few things. If she follows through on her threats, it will definitely mean that the marriage should end.

Anybody sending crying selfies, man or woman, is trying to manipulate your emotions. And that's ick.