That’s not a bad idea

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Everyone should just ignore him. He's trying to manipulate people into sympathy with the hope of guilttripping you back into the relationship. I read no real self-reflection, only how much of a victim he is in this situation and you're the offender since you "always pick a fight because you misunderstand him".

This behaviour is just so toxic overall... leave him and never look back, he has some serious issues to overcome and since you're not his therapist, you're not responsible.

He’s in the military. My friend said he does one more thing to contact the commander

This isn’t just expressing feelings. This is contacting pretty much everyone she knows to try and get others to buy into his stalking. Because that is what this is. It isn’t just expressing feelings it’s obsessive and could turn dangerous

You might need to get a protection order. Send him one text telling him to cease contacting you and your friends or you will contact the police. Then block

It’s manipulation pure and simple.

What do you mean worst? I’m kind of scared

Don't get me wrong, the behavior can definitely be viewed as manipulation but as they say, a drowning man will clutch at a straw.

Say it with me.... Ma... Ni.... Pu... La... Tion.... Manipulation.

He may also have a very dependent relationship stile which would make it worse...

I did tell him that. I have kids and I’m pretty scared

This is verging on stalker territory. Tell him you don’t appreciate him trying to rope your friends into your break up and that it’s over. And then block him. Tell every friend he’s contacted to tell him the same thing

Yes you’re right about the feelings part

I read it but that doesn't change the response about him expressing his feelings. You should still end the relationship.

Well, she was young and immature etc. However - she never came clean and she felt comfortable keeping up lying about it. You are both still young. You should consider getting out, because trust is pretty important in a relationship.

Not sure if you read the whole post. He’s literally stalking my friends list and begging them for help. He also contacted someone on my video game list with the same ish.

I'm really sorry that is a terrible situation to be in. Don't engage and ask friends and family not to either.

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So he isn't allowed to show emotion? It's no different than a woman crying over a breakup. If you feel the relationship has run it's course end it but don't treat him like he shouldn't have emotions, that's the type of toxic shit we are trying to get rid of in men. Validate his feelings but let him know you are not interested anymore. As for those saying he should man up...fuck that, it can't be both ways here. You can't expect men to be more in touch with their feelings to be a better partner but expect them to not express those feelings.

Oh god, I have received one in the past… it’s just cringy. Didn’t react.

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People can change, but it really depends on something else changing to prompt it. If it’s just him promising things will get better… that isn’t it.

It did…now he’s contacting people I know begging

Would seal the deal 👋

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