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If you are "falling for someone else" then you do not love your girlfriend

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Well if she is keeping her distance because she doesn't want any sort of romantic situation with someone who isn't single, then I see nothing wrong with that. Are you going to force someone to give you romantic attention when you aren't even single? Be single or let it go. There is a level of selfishness you shouldn't cross. Does your gf know?

I see. That’s a reality I wasn’t aware of. If she did lie, I guess I can kinda understand now, but I still wouldn’t be completely okay with it. Thank you for sharing your insight

Because I said a woman is beautiful? Lol you see that’s my point.. Your actions vs your words don’t make sense.

ps. All humans are beautiful.

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Yes, people lie.

Some men become angry when rejected. We are taught at a young age to let people down gently….not to save you, but to save ourselves.

Based on what you’re telling me, I think you need to come out of the closet because you’re definitely bisexual.

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You were texting a girl constantly, and she didn't already know you have a gf? You've already been emotionally cheating. You'll be lucky if either of them would consider dating you after knowing what you've been up to.

This in itself is not a red flag. Do you think bisexual people in relationships should just not have friends? Guy friends can be just that, a friend

Stop being pos

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I’m gonna update here because I think my og post is lengthy enough, and if everyone sees this, they see it, if not… well. Anyways.

Update: We broke up. I think? He kept trying to change the subject when I tried to bring it up again but eventually I got him to talk about it.

He repeated his sentiments, and said if it wasn’t about his future kids or whatever, he would have just accepted me and let me say I’m whatever I want but he asked if I would tell our kids it’s okay to be gay. I said of course. He said then we have to break up then.

I started crying (embarrassing). We talked for awhile, hugged, more talking. All in the parking lot of his job. He essentially said he can’t and would never change his mind about the LGBT. I cried and argued. He compared being gay to being a p/do, then to being attracted to animals. I cried and argued some more, asked if he was joking: he said he was serious, several times he said he was not at all joking.

Then he asked if we could talk about it tomorrow, most likely hoping I’d forget about the conversation and things would go back to normal. I said I would stay at my parents house tonight instead.

Then all of the sudden he says “fine, I’ll accept you. I’ll let you tell our kids whatever you want, I’ll let you be whatever you want.”

I was confused, still crying, and quite frankly numb from what just happened.

He said “someone has to save our relationship.” Implying that I’m the one breaking up with him by not agreeing with his ultimatum. Saying it’s my choice now if we want to break up.

I’m just too tired and confused. I told him even if he said it’s fine now, I know he’d never actually believe what he’s saying. I ended the conversation and said sure we’d talk tomorrow but I’m sleeping on the couch.

I’ll save me having to make another update and tell you guys now: he’ll say something charming if not slightly funny, he’ll convince me he was joking the whole time, and will maybe throw in a thing about how he supports the lgbt, that it’s just because his religion that he can’t completely agree with it, we’ll move on and it will never be mentioned again, because if it is, he will stonewall me or just smile and say “yes, honey” just to shut me up right there. He’s predictable by now.

Or maybe I’ll wake up and and leave before he wakes, moving on with my life. I really couldn’t tell you guys definitely because part of me thinks this was all some sort of game to see whether I’d cry or something when he broke up with me. I don’t know. I don’t want to stay with someone like that. I also always assume the worst out of people. I don’t know but I do appreciate all of your advice. Most of them will be in my head tonight while I try to sleep.

Yeah she lied. Not so much to let you down easy but to make it easier for herself.

Oh fuck yah, and it will usually be a bad one. I can think of 2 girls in my whole life that had the strength of mind to say I don't want to. Every other girl had a story of how they were politely unavailable. In some vauge ass unprovable way. I think they believe they are saving your feelings by avoiding direct rejection, or to avoid confrontation. Maybe both.

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Why do y’all call people names because they don’t go along with y’all’s beliefs…

You’re a woman. Dating a man. Planning on marrying a man and being pregnant with a man’s kids…

Just because someone can find the same sex physically attractive and even sexually attractive doesn’t make you bi. You know who I think is one of the most beautiful woman ever? Pryankra Chopra! 😍 does that make me bi now? Some men like to be sexually aroused from behind. Does that make them gay?

If you were a dike or trans conforming to a new life than it would be understandable about him being arrogant.

But you’re doing “gender-norm” living and you’re flabbergasted why he’s confused?

A lesbian is a lesbian. Gay is gay.

That’s understandable.

What makes you bi?

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Go to therapy and talk about it

Half of all people step out of their relationships people have to learn how to heal from these things and not keep running if indeed having monogamous long term relationships is their goal

I think most people's goals is really serial monopoly and this is their excuse for leaving

It was a long time ago

I think people have to decide whether they want honesty or not. If we want truth telling then we have to deal with the truth

If one truth is told everybody runs out the door it doesn't encourage anybody to be honest

Break up with this dude. You say you respect each other’s opinions but he clearly doesn’t respect yours. I don’t think marrying this man will do you any good. He is testing your waters with those sarcastic jokes that are borderline offensive. He evaluates your response to those statements and then backtracks saying it was sarcasm. Also he is clearly homophobic. Do you really think you have a future with a homophobe?

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