Saying you'll change is easy. Actually changing is harder. Keeping that change is hardest.

If he is actually making the effort, and it's lasted more than a couple weeks, then I say sure give him a chance. That doesn't mean believe him and it doesn't mean trust the history- it means give him a chance to prove himself changed.

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It’s best to divorce her while you’re broke with limited earnings and without children. Just Google “Max child support for two children in Texas” and think about that.

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Guy Here. Happens all the time. You only need to stress if she's missing big blocks of time. Otherwise chill. She is either with you or with someone else. While she is with you dont F it up by thinking its the later.

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No choice but to sit her down and explain how you're feeling and talk about where you guys can go from here. It doesn't sound as though you want to keep working on the relationship, and she definitely has a right to know that and to not waste any more time with someone who doesn't actually want to be with her. If the "hassle" of splitting up furniture and pure guilt are the only things keeping you with her, it may be time to end the relationship. She may feel blindsided and may not react well, but I really hope you two can eventually have an honest, kind and thoughtful discussion about your future. You're both very young and are going to meet many more people and have new experiences and learning to communicate about tough things in a considerate way is going to help you both a lot in the long run. Be brave and good luck!

Human touch is a basic human need and if you're in monogamous relationship, he is the only person who can provide that .

If he is not capable of understanding that, or willing to come up with a reasonable plan, then you only have one choice: dumping his ass off.

He said it was cool because he wanted to think it was a phase! He's now made it clear he won't support you or you children if you don't fit in his moral box. Get out now before any further damage can be done

I don't think you're a prick for thinking the relationship has run its course for you and you want to go separate ways. You'll be a prick if you keep this up for much longer - don't you think she deserves someone who loves and wants to be with her? It's not you anymore.

First. You don’t hint you want to be exclusive. You tell/ask directly. Hinting is just idiotic and people always miss hints or think it’s something else. So if you want to ask her to actually be your gf, ask. Worst she says is no.

Second. Of course they can. Women and men have been friends since forever. You thinking that more is happening is because of your past and not because of her. You are creating an issue because of being hurt. It isn’t a red flag she has guy friends. Plus she told you and didn’t hide the encounter. She is showing you that she can be trusted. But if you can’t trust her, don’t ask her to be exclusive with you or even be with her. She doesn’t need to be judged or second guessed or controlled for having friends of the opposite sex.

Hi, I'm a woman and hang out with my guy friends 1 on 1. I understand your concerns, especially because your trust has been broken in the past. But if this girl hasn't broken your trust in anyway, then there's no reason to not trust her. The fact that she told you is a good sign.

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Couples counseling?

Eventually you are going to seek it elsewhere

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Where in his post does he say that she cheats? I am not the only one asking about this. I do not want the juicy or stale details, but I am Not seeing in the post anywhere that the wife admits to cheating, an incident of cheating, or him saying anything except, I know there is more she is not telling.

I was not trying to be rude. I even asked if some of the post got deleted. Unlike some I do not offer advice until the facts are in the post or comments. The fact the OP refuses to address any questions regarding the lack of information in the post is beginning to feel like looking under a bridge.

I am sorry if I have missed something, but I checked his comments and read his post multiple times. It is disjointed and sorely lacking. If his entire supposition is she cheated because she admitted to being a virgin and he was her first and only boyfriend then it sounds like paranoia and he needs some professional help not Reddit.

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Well the start up that he started with his friends just recently started making money so this is very new. Before he would save and reinvest everything.

He recently started to do financially well so I’m not worried about him losing all his money but I am worried that he’s addicted to it and he will be losing a lot of money over the comjng years if he doesn’t stop.

Even though he may not go broke , you should still value Money

You can't stop an addict from getting their fix. Only they can.

That’s crazy you’re getting annoyed that he’s “refusing to answer”!! He said she cheated and is asking for advice on how to proceed, he doesn’t owe anyone all the juicy details. Why do you wanna know so badly?

You could try that. It's pretty common for people engaging in risky behavior to brush away that kind of warning, though. They believe it won't happen to them because they are careful or sensible about their risky behavior.