Sorry if this sounds blunt or old fashioned. I have been married for 22 years to a wonderful woman. She experimented early on with a bisexual relationship and threesomes before we met. I was very forthright and when we got serious, I explained that I simply did not want to share her affection with anyone else. While we had our tumultuous early years, it became obvious that she also wanted a monogamous relationship long term and was satisfied with what we had created together. We married and have 2 wonderful girls, who have both professed to being bisexual in nature. I am fine with it, as is my spouse. I truly believe it all comes down to being honest in your expectations of the relationship. However, I never found the prospect of even a F/F/M being interesting in the least so I am probably an outlier who is just straight by preference.

Divorce her before you get the good job.

That's a heck of a budget for leisure gambling. (My gambling is pretty much limited to a one-dollar lottery ticket once every couple of months.) It's difficult for me to comprehend.

Do you know his financial position well enough that you believe he can afford to lose sums like this?

I think you should be very cautious about this relationship. This seems like reckless risky behavior to me.

Yeah he gambles using an app , he pays our rent and everything. So like maybe I show him some videos on what gambling can do to people

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Does he regularly gamble? And is this kind of gambling legal where you live?

There's not much you can do, unfortunately. If it impacts you, like he cannot pay his share of rent and other expenses, most people would advise you to leave him before he goes into debt and destroys his credit and puts your financial security at risk.

Well he’s wealthy , I’m not. I’m a school teacher. Some of the bets are pending . He said he Already saves and Invests and this money is for leisure.

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Are you and he wealthy? The amounts he is betting are very substantial sums to most average people.

He has already lost at least $6700, and his winning wagers were $1500. It's not possible to know how he is doing since we don't know the odds on each wager. It doesn't look like he's doing that well.

But even if he has enough money to cover these bets, most people would rather save it or spend it on something else. It's upsetting you, and most people would feel the same way.

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Thank you! I couldn't put it into words exactly, but you helped me. I have spoken to him about this before , but I struggle with words not in text format.

Classic behavior of someone who's cheating. Be careful.

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Yeah, when there is zero balance like that, its not healthy.

You have to side with your partner and validate their feelings. And a good partner would challenge you occasionally (not always agreeing with what you say).

Except when he always is defaulting to the other side, it shows he stands more against you, than with you.

If a partner always stood next to you... it would make the times of disagreement more viable. It would be done out of good intentions, rather than disagreeing for the sake of no respect.

I think sometimes It can be as well, but even if I'm just mad at a game and speaking to him about it he will act as if I shouldn't have such an reaction. I feel like I can't tell him anything at all.

Sounds to me like you two aren't compatible 😞

Break up with him. That sucks.

Playing devil's advocate is good, but if he is never validating your feelings or sympathizing then to me it seems like he just never agrees with you.

That sounds incredibly exhausting

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I told him that sometimes I'd just like to..vent. No other remarks needed, just listen. He continues to do it and it makes me wonder I'm being unreasonable.

Has he ever explained to you why he does this? In fact, have you ever asked him?

Candles, my man. Girls love candles at all ages. Get a good smelling one.