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SheBeeMe t1_j6pitvh wrote

Reply to Keeping relationship strong with toddler . M26 & F25 by Careful_Woodpecker11

Welcome to Parenthood. You don't get to check out just because it's difficult. You don't get to leave the parenting and responsibilities to your wife simply because you are tired of trying. Step in and step up. Read parenting blogs/books, ask experts for advice, see a therapist, but don't stop trying.

If your child wants to run around and play, put baby gates up and let him run in a safe space.

You have to plug in to your family.

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Excellent_Care1859 t1_j6pipv3 wrote

Reply to my [19 f] girlfriend [18f] needs more gestures from me but i don’t know what to different. help pls by throwRAurmomlol

Can you possibly list a few examples of things you could do for her? I mean her just vaguely saying you need to do more but then saying she can’t tell you what isn’t very helpful. So maybe try offering a few things and seeing if anything strikes a cord:

Do you want me to plan more of our daily activities? Do you want me to help more around the house (if you live together) Do you want me to touch you/cuddle you/whatever more?

See where this conversation gets you.

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Reply to I(32f) found out that my SO(33m) has almost 20k debt from TCG and phone games by [deleted]

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Therisemfear t1_j6pi6tx wrote

Reply to I (21 f) love my gf (23f) but we physically abuse each other by East_Annual3829

Both of you need to get your shit together before continuing in a relationship.

Love is not the only requirement of a healthy relationship. Love and abuse are not mutually exclusive.

If you have an ounce of care for her and yourself, you need to separate now and work on your respective problems. Get clean and get into therapy.

At the very least, you need to be physically separated from each other so you won't be able to hurt each other. DV is serious and you might end up permanently injuring her or getting into jail.

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KJM31422 t1_j6pi6k2 wrote

Reply to I (F24) saw an email from Tinder on my boyfriends (M28) phone by g0ldeng0ats

I can't speak from personal experience with Tinder, but it is absolutely possible if not likely that they send out advertising emails. Especially if he jsut deleted the app and didn't suspend/deactivate his account.

Since it's specifically Tinder gold that's being advertised, I would guess that it's an ad meant to pull dormant users back in.

"We haven't seen you on Tinder in a while. Here's a free 2 weeks of gold to get you back in dating pool!" Etc...

I wouldn't worry about it at all if he's given you no other reason to worry.

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