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Sea_Duty182 t1_j6pfmhk wrote

Reply to comment by SheBeeMe in Im worried m32 my fiance f31 fancy her work colleague by [deleted]

I can assure you I am none of the above. We have a very open relationship where we often do our own things so please don't make assumptions.
It is a big deal to me because I don't get why she'd make up stuff. I haven't gone into detail, but the depth of the fake stories is what bothers me. Not just a passing comment but it goes on and on..

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TMGStan420 OP t1_j6pfh16 wrote

Reply to comment by nightowl2023 in 28M trying to know if I’m getting taken advantage of financially by my now ex 28F girlfriend by TMGStan420

I’m not going into the specifics with you. There were specifics that we talked about, and she agreed to do those things. Essentially it was things she could do to make me feel loved and valued in other ways. For example, when she makes herself breakfast in the morning, I’d love if she made extras for me. Acts of service are big for me. She would do them for about a week and then stop again. There was no breakdown in the communication, just a lack of care by one party.

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13wanderer13 OP t1_j6pfc5j wrote

Reply to comment by Kooky_Independent656 in 19F 43M by 13wanderer13

I’m 100% independent, I have a job and savings. I don’t live with him out of necessity, haven’t for a while. I’ve become attached to where I live because it’s less than ten minutes away from my job and it’s across the street from the college I want to attend. There’s many factors to this and why I can’t just pick up and leave. My entire family is in another country and I don’t have close friends outside of work.. the thought of doing that all by myself is heart wrenching :/ specially because that’s how I moved out in the first place.. packed up my stuff and left without telling anyone. It’s easier said than done. For now I just want to draw a line in the sand.

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aeiou-y t1_j6pf9vm wrote

Reply to comment by Adventurous-Tip8351 in My (f24) husband (m25) sent nudes to someone else. by [deleted]

He probably is not cheating outside of sending a dick pic to a complete stranger. Check out r/scams things along this line are an epidemic these days. They fish for enough info to be able to search people on social media so they can threaten to expose it to friends and family. If you post about it on scams they can better explain what is happening.

Your husband should ignore them and apologize one thousand times over for sending a dick pic to some old man in the phillipines

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ReachTheSky t1_j6pf77b wrote

Reply to My (27F) girlfriend (25F) is going out almost every night and doesn’t care to answer my calls or texts. by Momo_Senpai09

> I have been bringing up the issue almost everyday and have said that it isn’t working for me. I don't know how to make her understand.

What do you mean make her understand? Unless you're ranting to her in Cantonese, she obviously heard and understood your words and the meaning behind them. The real issue is that she understands but doesn't care and there's no way you can force her to start caring.

> Even though she tells me she loves me and wants to be with me her actions say otherwise.

When someone says one thing and does the opposite, it makes them a liar. Words can deceive but actions cannot. Actions speak louder than words.

> she says she's having the time of her life right now and has even mentioned she is a "free bird." I even brought up how she is acting like she's single. I say this because when she goes out to the club she flirts with other girls and has even gotten some of their numbers.

So in her mind, she's broken up with you. You're no longer together but she wont give you the common courtesy of saying so. Don't be surprised to learn that the nights she comes home very late or not at all are spent intimately with other women. I think it's high time that you move on as well.

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