Yes he was open about it and a while back i tried dating others as well. I will think about what you are saying because it's a good point

If he values the friendship as much as you do, and is not just being nice for the sake of getting in your pants, he will understand. But it seems he is unwilling to accept your feelings and is ignoring your boundaries.

You have to issue an ultimatum and if he still refuses to acknowledge your lack of love interest, you need to cut them off as this friendship is inherently unsustainable.

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If none of them are NSFW that's fine. 5 Years makes for a lot of photos to delete

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Stop this Ross Geller bullshit

Being a wingman is one thing. But your boyfriend's actions seem to go beyond talking up his buddy. This is likely poor judgment. At the very least, your boyfriend is putting himself in situations where he is likely to cheat.

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have some respecto for you and you ex and don't send this

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Not worth it, remember the good times for what they were, but look forward to a new and bright future.

I mean, it’s over. She doesn’t care about you and she’s doing everything in her power to show you she doesn’t care about you.

The only question in this entire scenario is why you’re still with her?

I know Tinder stopped emailing me after my account was inactive for a while. I'm not sure if they send periodic pushy emails to reinstall it again or something, although if it were trying to advertise the availability of a new membership program it might be that.

>He told me this before asking me, because we have an open communication.

Was he open about the fact he was pursuing other women?

Why was it only now, after all this time, that he was actually open about his feelings about you and what he considers the prospect of the dynamic?

Like honestly, I don't think you were open on what was a really huge topic. And he exploited that, he would initiate contact despite being aware he didn't really want more. You assumed it was relationship trauma, but it comes across more as opportunism to me.

Which is gross. You deserve more than that. Sure, if his trauma is making him hold back then that's something worthy of compassion but really it only cements he probably isn't capable of being the kind of partner you need him to be. Honestly, I think he failed as a friend as well.

I'm not saying that this is right but when something is a social norm it's hard to say that something is "wrong".

It very much is still a social norm for the male in a MF relationship to take on a higher financial burden. The 50/50 model is an exception and a lot of women are conditioned to not think anything of it.

Part of the problem here is that you feel that this should be expected. And she obviously feels something else should be expected. And that's what happen when two people don't actually talk to each other about expectations.

No worries man.

If you're realistically considering divorce. Talk to a divorce lawyer.

You made 250k/yr before, and you're unemployed now due to laid off.

He/she might even recommend to take a tame job and drop the idea of a high level role for while. Get through the divorce process.

Might give less of an argument on her side.

Anyways, if you're going the divorce route, every decision should be made by lawyers advice.

Otherwise making it work.... 100% she needs to step up and make you feel like you're not an opening to a lifestyle she wants. She needs to be humbled and work to contribute. Make you feel like an actual person and not a piggy bank.

We’ve been dating for 5 months. About 35 dates and 30 sleepovers

7 dates since the start of the month

I can only give you general advice. You know her better, but make it about her. Take her to her favorite place, do your favorite activity, and make sure your gift is thoughtful. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but the important thing is to attach something very meaningful even if the gift is not a personalized hand made thing. A heartfelt card is a force multiplier in any gifts. Good luck bud.

How can she not remember but remember that she has been raped. To add, why would she choose this guys home to stay over at night, someone she has been intimite a lot with in the past?

I have plenty more questions but at the end of the day, why does no one hold her accountable for her actions?

She might genuinly believe that she has been raped and i am not trying to inject malicious intend here but in all honesty, he asked if she wants to have sex, she gave as good as consent as he is used to from her and thats that.

Making terrible consequtive decisions is not = being raped.

I get that but surely not to this extent

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Don’t do it