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I think you have a reasonable excuse. If he cared about you he’d want you to be happy with your crush on Valentine’s Day.

She developed this crush before us dating , and she told me it was gone like almost 1 month into our relationship.

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They are still friends on Facebook and she’s got lots of pictures of them together

How can I make it the best? Btw thanks for the comment it helped me a lot

I could only see her messages not his responses but it seemed like her told her a couple months into our relationship and she kept on the pressure for one more time and said she wanted to do more than feel him threw his pants (about 5 months into our relationship) after a party

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I dont know man. Im just overthinking so much, thinking she has lost interest

It sounds like she's done with the relationship, it might not be a bad idea to take a break and see how you feel

I can't lol.

I would feel so ridiculous hitting on someone looking for jobs.

We did end things on a good note. I said pretty much the same thing, I broke it off because I didn't feel like she prioritized me and was distancing herself from me. We wouldn't go on dates and when I was down visiting her she spent some of the time with some guys besides me on my last day at her university.

I said I want someone who is stoked to see me and chooses me first over some other guys. She said she felt the same way about breaking up for a while, we talked some more and she said hopefully when the time is right we will be back together and that there is a good chance we will get back together. We both said I love you, hugged, I gave her a last kiss, and left. I am just hurting now man, I know this isn't a good idea, but I just wish we didn't have to break up.

I did and he said that there was nothing to do because he's not mad.

Sorry, but if you’re going to try to protect her from every potentially scary/uncomfortable/dangerous encounter with men, be prepared to be her 24/7 body guard. That’s life for women. If she’s not asking you to protect her, I doubt she’ll welcome you constantly stepping in and doing it of your own volition.

I feel like you’re scratching for justifications to tell her not to talk to certain people. Bottom line, if she hasn’t given you a reason to mistrust her and she isn’t asking you to run interference between her and other men, don’t do it. She will not appreciate it.

This sort of thing happened to my cousin. I got a message in a group with our grandparents, uncles, and his parents. From what I gathered, he sent nudes on Snapchat and when he wouldn’t pay her, she sent them to everyone.

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It's fine to just say no to the other person? I just don't want to make him sad...

Is it an addiction? A strong sex drive and an accompanying desire to view sexually explicit activity is a very natural thing to have. Porn is easily available and its hardly surprising so many people watch a lot of porn. Having said that, there is certainly a point where too much is too much.

Is it affecting his day-to-day life and relationships? Does his desire to watch porn get him into trouble? Late for work? Turn you down for sex because he's masturbated while watching porn and has little desire for sex with you? Is he pushing views and activities that are common in porn but unrealistic in the real world upon you? Are his relationships with other people affected? Is he viewing it at inappropriate times and places?

I would suggest he feels that its unfair and disrespectful to you because he feels it takes away from the intimacy and the connection that he has with you because he's always thinking about the next porn scene to watch, or he's viewing other women as sexual objects and neglecting to have real personal connection with you - but this seems to be at odds with your experience. The other reason might be that he turns you down for sex or avoids intimacy because he'd rather use porn or uses it too much which again seems at odds with your experience.

He might be battling his own perception of what is fair and respectful. Everyone has different opinions about porn use and you certainly seems very relaxed about it. Perhaps he is someone that isnt comfortable with it and has his own guilt and hangups about his use which may actually be relatively normal?

You think it’s too much to ask her to hang out on Friday or Saturday?

"even tho i know she loves me." - come on bro. You are her second choice. People in love do not develop crushes. Cut your losses while its still just a flesh-wound.

Walk away and tell her good luck with that crush.

If she wants to be with you she needs to stop hanging on this guy's every word. She needs to make that relationship purely professional. At the moment she is emotionally cheating on you, perhaps mildly so, but still, she is.

>his bestfriends fiancé just called off engagement because of his infidelity

And your BF is still best friends with this person? And is putting himself in these situations?

Sounds like the best friend’s fiancée discovered something you’re about to find out the hard way.

Nothing wrong with being a wingman. There is something wrong with being wingman to your best friend who just broke off an engagement due to him cheating, lying about where he is, ending up at some random girls apartment with a best friend that you know condones cheating, and flipping it around on you that his lying is ok because you’re insecure.

You really don’t need to read the tea leaves here. He is best friends with this person for a reason, he thinks his actions and lying are ok for a reason. You know the reason.

your are 20 leave the madness

Why are you trying to fix it if he's the one with the problem? You should tell him that you're not OK with the silent treatment and if he wants to have a talk like a grown-up he should let you know. You don't have to cook for him and buy him stuff when he's acting like a child. You're just encouraging him.