I understand. She basically tried out the single life while still married and then decided you were enough or that she didn’t want to make the effort it takes when single. I’m sorry that happened. I’m big on integrity.

I would just respect her space. Maybe focus on something that you need to get done?

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You make a good point here. He hurried up to point to her insecurities and make her question her own sanity.

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You are strong and smart!

So much more so than so many other young women we see here.

Good for you.

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Then it's already on her and she knows that.

Move on mate.

This will rub salt in her wounds and leave you waiting and angsty for a response that may likely never come.

Leaving the porch light on is one thing, but this is like leaving the door wide open after kicking someone out, it sends totally mixed messages and it's just going to cause more hurt.

Let it go, move on.

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he deleted texts i’m guessing your boyfriend is still lying to you unfortunately. when his friend comes round ask to borrow his phone and check the chats between them!

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>If his mate is 30odd .. surely he can chat up a women by himself

34 here, nope, not at all. Don't make assumptions.

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Sacrifice is something that has to be a decision made by the party making the sacrifice... If not it's just coercion, manipulation, or abuse. It sounds like you made your choices freely... You owe it to the good relationship that you have to be 100% honest. You do not want children. And if he wants children it will not be with you. So then he has a choice to make. And you shouldn't do anything to influence that choice further. If he genuinely feels like being a father is something his life won't feel complete without. Then he needs to leave you. And you need to let him. If it's a sacrifice he is willing to make and one that he won't hold against you as you continue to grow, then you can feel more secure in the decision to be together, knowing that he won't be asking that part of you to change. But he doesn't owe you the sacrifice of giving up something he's dreamed of. No one knows that to anyone else.

Well i just found out that she still has a nickname with heart emoji on him in her contacts since they dated. It's really stupid detail, but it's details like these that make me overthink. Thanks for your advice though!

Its his issue and he needs to work on that. The problem already started by him projecting this insecurity into the relationship.

As of right now, it might not be a issue to you guys because you are still very fresh and in love. Once the glitter goes away and some struggles set in, he will however most likely use porn as a resource to avoid confrontation with you, where it matters.

Its speculation. Support him on stopping but if he is not taking serious approaches to stop, he is just talking about stopping and not actually doing anything.

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To me, it sounds like your GF is a liar, not a cheater.

I once had a friend that fabricated a lot of stuff just to have something to talk about, I knew that a lot of what he said was BS but he was still fun to hang out with and the lies were harmless.

That being said, idk why your GF is making things up. You would have to ask her.

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No I don’t think so at all! If y’all are talking daily it seems natural to me!

Good luck!