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Don’t stress over a girl that would take a pass on you because of a 2013 Nissan Sentra. Not saying she did, but I feel like that’s a good rule to live by. The only time a car itself becomes a red flag is if it’s destroyed or filled with trash.

You are not responsible for him. He might try to convince you that you are, that it will be your fault. But it is not. He can choose not to hurt himself, but he is using the threat as a way to get you to do what he wants. He knows you will feel guilty and it will make you hesitate.

You are going to have to be very clear with him, and don’t get sucked into a conversation about it. A text will be fine. Break up, bare minimum explanation. If he goes off on you, threatens to hurt himself, you can tell him you will call his family to do a welfare check on him or failing that, the police. It is probably best that you also block him.

This man isn’t a victim. He’s not poor and helpless, he is manipulating you and trying to isolate you. Tell your friends you are going to break up with him and you would like them to be with you when you do, because you’re concerned about your own safety and maybe even being strong enough to block him/call the police if required.

You can do this. Don’t let this guy control you.

Well, when you are alone you have no choice.

And while you cook and clean what will be his fair share?

Do something she likes and see how it goes. No big or expensive or grand gesture, just something that she is interested in doing.

Flowers and/or candy are always a good move.

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you’re shitty for snooping

>I feel like I should never be jealous because I completely trust my BF

Eh.....

If you never feel jealous or protective of your spouse then you either are a robot or view them in a way that is not healthy. For example, let's flip the script here. Imagine if you had a picture on social media with some guy who had his hands around your waist.

Then you ran into that guy and he started hugging you.

Unless your boyfriend is into you with other guys his reaction is probably going to be WHO DA F is that guy? As would any reasonable person. And this is why we have boundaries in relationships.

For example, my wife is fine with me being friends with other women. But my wife is not fine with me doing things like being alone + drinking with other women. Or talking to women at really late hours.

I’d say I’m not going to be friends with a despicable person. And wish him well with the rest of his life.

It's not bad tho. (Nissan Sentra 2013) I don't know about her expectations

So we’ve established:

• He’s perfectly fine with lying to you
• he’s friends with dishonest cheaters
• he wasn’t just wing manning, THEY were going to meet girl*s (plural)
• he went back to her place… makes me wonder who was wing manning who

Your bf is cheating on you, or he’s enabling others to do so, at the very minimum his actions are extremely inappropriate and 100% of questionable moral character. If you think that doesn’t matter, I mean that’s the difference between people who cheat and people who don’t

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"Hey man..." sounds like he's talking to a guy friend, or he wanted someone who may have been reading his texts to think it was a guy. Does he normally call you man?

Move out and get your own place. Problem solved.

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Not worth it and same goes for the friends who “threatened” you - they’re a waste of time.

yeah he’s cheating……. message the sender with his excuse see what they say. you have nothing to lose by doing this. if they say he’s having an affair ask for more proof but honestly i don’t really think you need it!

He’s thrown you across the room. He’s hit you. He’s verbally abused you. I’m sorry but there isn’t enough money in the world that makes that acceptable. He’ll pay child support because that’s the law. It’s not okay to raise kids in a household that is EVER violent. If you have a son, he’ll become abusive. If you have a daughter, she’ll end up with one. Ask anyone who was raised around that.

Absolutely sounds like trauma bonding to me too. It's incredibly unhealthy and the relationship is doing more harm than good. It's physically abusive, emotionally manipulative (in many ways), and emotionally abusive. By triggering each other's trauma responses and the fact it's escalated to physical contact and suicidal ideation, it's imperative both seek counseling to work on healing and deal with their anger issues. For both their safety, they should separate to avoid adding more trauma to an already horrible situation

Dating in your early twenties is a wild ride. Sometimes really good connections just drop with no explanation. Don’t think too much about it. Also, idk what your expectations are, but if I was 22 and someone didn’t date me because of my car I’d consider that a bullet dodged.

I don’t think he fell for a scam. Often the scams will say they will send out the nudes unless you send money. They typically never do send out the nudes since it is a crime in a lot of places.

It is likely that he cheated and the mistress sent this out to expose him. And now he’s been caught is is desperately trying to change the narrative to something that would benefit him more.

WHY

Jesus F Christ leave her alone.

She lied. Is that what you want in a partner? Dishonesty?

No but for the guilt it brings. Feelings aren't fair. I wanted everything for this to work out. I loved her with all my heart and have the utmost respect snd admiration for her.

As time has gone on my everything has soured and I feel more alone than ever.

She's done nothing wrong but that doesn't mean I can stand to stay.