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You could do it anonymously. I've been that girl before and I couldn't care less who told me. I just wish someone did.

Thanks your right and I needed to hear that. I’ll talk to him tonight about it.

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What can I do? Because I really don't know what to do.

This is such an extreme reaction.

Cool, you have other options. But someone being to busy should not result in you cutting them out your life.

Why did you not verbalize this before breaking up with her? At 22, it seems you still have some growing up to do before you are ready for this. At this point, you are yanking her chain.

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You need to break up with her. If you don't, you are wasting both of your time.

That said, you can still support her as a friend even after breaking up.

It was unhealthy that she became dependent on you in the relationship. Though it was not necessarily her fault as you said she had a rough family. But you need to let her be aware that she is becoming dependent and it's not healthy.

How is the situation with the rent? Does she share the rent with you or is she financially dependent?

Grab his attention and tell him that you want to separate from him and that you are thinking about ending this marriage. If he doesn't talk to you, then he IMO has emotionally checked out. Pack up some stuff and tell him that you will be back for the rest and walk out. Or you put your hands on the side of his face and tell him that you are leaving him, make him HEAR you.

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Red flag central. Get out of that mess immediately. Tell his family that he's threatening to hurt himself, and leave him. It will only get worse from there.

And he's telling you he isn't going to talk about it or acknowledge what's going on. So are you going to sit there and accept being treated like garbage?

I'd tell him nothing. I would tell his girlfriend though! He knows what he's doing. And he's not giving her the chance to make an informed decision. He's a dick. She deserves to know.

I know people on Reddit sometimes have a different opinion but honestly I don’t think it is my place to tell her. I do believe she deserves to know should he decide he wants to be with her (so she can decide, with all the information, if she wants to as well) while if he were to break up with her maybe it would be better for her to never know, i’m not sure.

why would you block him for being honest? he’s busy.

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Get out. Now. Yesterday. Break up and call his parents or friends or 911 if he makes a threat. He is controlling you through fear. Soon it could be much, much worse. Tell your parents, your family, and/or your friends what is going on. Be safe.

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I mean i told her i just wanted her to write a card for me and she did not do that. am i still overreacting?

That’s the thing that’s been bugging me, if she had properly spoken to me about the situation we could’ve come to a solution. Instead I’ve just been “ditched” more or less and she expects everything between us to be fine? I can’t wrap my head around the thought process, to the point I don’t think there was one.

What happened during the fight? Did you say anything very hurtful?

Could it be that he’s still processing his emotions after the fight? Sometimes a person needs a little more time to get over something, even if they accept an apology.

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