Since what he says is meaningless, stop paying attention to it. What do you want to do about the fact that he's treating you like shit?

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The actual problem here is the lack of commitment.

For example, I physically "prefer" women that don't have the body type of my wife and I always have. But that doesn't make it okay to invalidate the commitments I made to her and emphasize my fantasies over her.

Because then I'm no longer happy with the person that I have.

Do you two love each other or are you trauma bonding? Maybe push pause on the relationship so you can work on yourselves. Some time away might give you some great insight

Start with a firm NO

You're gong to be fine, just don't forget the way you feel right now. He's going to try to convince you to stay, that things will be different, he's learned, blah blah blah. You know that you're better off without him.

It’s probably a combination of lack of consideration for you, hearing loss and being completely brain dead and enslaved by social media and his phone.

There very good friends, which is great. But she is all she talks about.
I noticed she keeps her phone on her alot and curiosity got the better of me :/

That doesn't quite make sense, you can fully support another person but not get health assistance?

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Which is a good reason to see someone else.

This man made me very uncomfortable just from reading your post.

His temper, betting money when you live paycheck to paycheck? His controlling behaviour? Looking for stepdaughter p0rn?

He's a walking red flag waving more smaller red flags.

Kick him out.

Is it possible they're just friends, and she's venting? Why are you snooping?

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He could have said, "I'm in a relationship." If he entertained her, he knew what he was doing. It would cause me to lose trust in him. It would cause me to question what else he does that I do not know about.

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Your first red flag should have been when you weren't allowed to have friends. Classic manipulation to leave you alone and unsupported, ensuring you only have him. You 100% did the right thing

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If you both can put hands on each other, y’all don’t love each other. It doesn’t matter if you “have a low tolerance for someone’s emotional state,” or whatever, if you actually love a person, you care and don’t get mad. It seems like y’all just want company.

People who love each other don’t hurt each other.

I did! He said that there's nothing wrong still. It's driving me crazy. He's giving me the silent treatment.

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Sadly I cannot afford a nurse, or else that would’ve been my choice from the start.

This is riddled with red flags. You’re absolutely right to kick him out and leave him!

His temper, him not wanting you to hangout with friends or work, all of those things are isolating behaviors. Typically, those lead to escalations of abuse. Get out and stay out now!