He's "anxious," so he reaches out to another woman to flirt? Sounds shady and manipulative. He's responsible for his behavior, and it's time for you to hold him accountable. He's 30 years old. He knows what is right and wrong.

If you send her this, you’ll end up waiting to hear back from her. I know you think you’re not looking for a response, but by leaving the door open for her to come back, some part of you will always be waiting for that to happen. When you don’t hear back from her, you will hurt more. I’ve been here man. It hurts, but the best thing to do is not send the message and just let it go.

I don’t think that’s necessarily true. I had a friend who cheated (we’re no longer friends for unrelated reasons) and staying friends with her didn’t make me think cheating was ok. I definitely didn’t go to her for any relationship advice though 😂

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If that’s the case then she will be the one that needs to reach out to you. Otherwise you’re giving her the power as in she will think she can have you whenever she wants

I don't think I was cause of her irritation. I do think she had issues in her private life which makes me feel really bad because I gave her presenta at the end and I wanted to thank her for her awesome work and what she did for me (she did basically do everything I wanted for me) and show my appreciation without becoming romantically, instead I got really nervous and had self-doubts that this was too much and proceeded to make those presents about me instead of her because in both rooms were people listening so I couldn't say what I wanted to say as it was still a level of very deep emotions but I didn't want anyone getting the wrong idea and jeopardising her job. She turned from being fondly to a harsh goodbye and I am so sad I didn't get to tell her what a great person she is and how much I appreciate her work since I think she didn't get enough praise for that - also at work from the staff side and patientd and she had to deal with a lot of complaints from other patients which she couldn't do anything about.

2 days before Christmas (earlier before my release) I had to complain about something because the male leading doctor above her had done really bad things and I had to complain about it. It almost made her cry even though she was trying to suppress it. I went back to her and gave her a Christmas present (chocolate) and told her she was very smart and I didn't doubt her.

I am just totally upset and sad about not telling her how awesome she is and make her feel better about herself.

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Oh, yuck.

The time to "work on it" was when you are together. Not after you break up

Dont send it. let her leave in peace

Why would you want to stay with someone who is sick but refuses to leave the house to get help? Seriously. That’s depression way past the point that anyone who isn’t a professional can help. It’s like saying I know I have cancer and that if I treat it, I’ll be healthy but I’m not going to treat it.

To clarify, the other girl knows he is in a relationship.

Then I would say it’s just nerves. Just keep going at it honestly. It gets better each time, and word of advice don’t use all your energy up in the beginning. The second you start to get tired it’s pretty much a grind to finish. Just pace yourself and find the position that feels the best for both of you

He’s not guilty about doing it. He’s guilty he got caught. If you don’t think you can trust him again, move on.

Its to let her know that I love her and if she wanted to make things work its on her

They eat pieces of shit like us for breakfast around here.

Glad to hear your story has a happy end. Take care.

Thank you, I will definitely try this and update within the next month or so.

Please, please listen to your gut, you KNOW this is dangerous for your daughter, no man innocently searches for stepdaughter porn! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Why is she so reluctant to pay off her credit card debt?

You dumped her, there’s no need to send her that text

Tell him that his behaviour is despicable and he needs to come clean with both women. And I would really think about your friendship and whether you want to be a mate to someone who can do that.

Stop trying for a baby ASAP and break up. If you do get pregnant and settle down, the issues with his sexuality will likely not resolve themselves. You don’t deserve to be “cheated” on even if you decide to technically allow it, and you also don’t deserve to have a partner that resents you for not letting him explore other options. You’re both young. He needs to figure out what he wants for himself, and you deserve someone that is certain about you.

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LEAVE. how is this a question.

Thanks for the suggestion but we’ve tried this, we’ve used a condom at the start then tried it a couple times without one and the problem is still consistent

It's condescending to be a reductivist about this, fyi. If you tell anyone that their job is 'just doing x', it's going to come off condescending.

Take that as you want. You can't say 'it's not condescending'. You are being condescending, whether you want to be or not. If you don't want to be, change the way you communicate in the future.