UpdateMe! Please

It wasn't your fault as a child not knowing how to handle the situation. Did you have at least one adult who cared for you? And it's not your fault now. You might start by talking to your mother and getting to know her personally.

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This would be unacceptable imo.

He chose his friend getting laid over you, your feelings and your comfort. He chose to lie FOR HOURS and maybe more (because they agreed to meet a group of "hot girls").

Also, his friend doesn't seem to have problems getting laid since that is what caused the end of his relationship.

For all you know his friend could be lying too, he is a known liar and cheater. And your bf sees nothing wrong with it and followed his lead in lying, who's to say he didn't do the same with cheating? Why would you believe his friend or him?

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Actually no. Not eating soft cheese and lunch meat as well as washing salad mix has been a thing for pregnant women for decades. I think even the smoked salmon has too. I was told no shellfish either and fully cooked steak.

But I don't know if it's enough time for her to show she has truly kicked the habit. I am also worried I will never meet my financial goals if I am with her. Her income is more than enough to pay off her mortgage and build wealth, but she doesn't want to.

My bad, the trip hasnt been planned with any utlerior motives, I just love traveling and finally found the time and money to do so and booked the trip 2 months ago. On the other hand my mom seemed to be doing good until now but just announced to us she'll get surgery. If anything were to happen to her while i'm at the other side of the world I would feel remorseful for the rest of my life. Basically the whole problem is that my anxiety is based on "what ifs", and thinking of a future where she is in a critic situation made me think about our whole relationship again. Basically I want to change and be a better daughter AND i'm worrying about this trip were if anything happens to her I would not be able to do anything for her.

She wouldn't be my fiancee or my GF after I read those messages, IMO. She was cheating

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That's not how emotions work

I’ve always felt very insecure that I wouldn’t be able to satisfy a woman, and before we had sex i didn't really know if i was ready but i didn't want to hurt my girlfriends feelings. So I would say it’s most likely both insecurity and anxiety.

There always is going to be someone who has been in a similar situation and made it work unless it's something REALLY weird. With that being said there also are people who did not make it work.

So you have to decide what you want.

If you want monogamy then you need to break up and be with someone who wants what you want including the sexual aspect of a relationship. You aren't wrong for wanting your partner to want you sexually.

But I personally say try out his offer first if you are going to break up with him.

Thank you. She claims that she was exposed to gambling because she use to work in a casino, and alot of her friends use to play for fun. And it had never been a problem because she has been single for a long time and her income was always high.

She has only stopped using the pokies for 4 months. But realises she has lost enough money to buy 2 houses in the last 20 years. She wants to stop and is reluctant to buy any extra properties because she doesn't want to take on any more debt. Her parents are reliant on her income as their retirement. (She sends money home every month)

I wingwomaned some friends and have NEVER in my life passed the bar stage. When they leave, they go alone because I do not want to see them have sex or even interact with them.

It's inappropriate imo and it seems like they want a 3some.

>Ultimately, I personally view relationships as partnerships and as a team to build a life together. I looked for a partner who had the same view. I believe that it is reasonable. I feel from your post that you are second guessing yourself and doubting your boundaries, but they are also extremely reasonable. While he is hesitant to move past his ex, he is also depriving you of being YOUR partner. Breakups are painful, but you lean learn what you did right or wrong and apply that to your next relationship. You don’t have to “erase or delete” a part of your life, but you do have to move past and accept that it is over. Also, on most social media, there are ways to archive posts so they’re not deleted but are no longer public ally available.

Omg this is articulated in a away that is :chef's kiss: amazing! Thank you for putting into words what I've been feeling. That's exactly how I feel. This child is not even born yet and I already know too much about the life he is being born into.

He can have personal archives of his ex's photos but if my family or my friends want to follow him, I do not like the fact that they can see him on dates with an EX he talks to and is pretty much discussing personal details on a daily basis.

I like him overall and we aligned on most things but this is making it really hard to get over. Old me would've gotten into a relationship despite seeing red flags, but now I'm getting too old to ignore this.

I deleted the post. Why are you so heated about this?

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He promised.

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You realize that servers have to tip everyone else out in the restaurant right? Even if we don’t make enough to tip them out, at that point we have to pay out of our own pocket. So you as a customer are NOT just tipping someone for bringing food out. Pretty small of you to think like that.

Support him? What is that you are doing right now, if it isn't supporting him?!

He makes $800-1200 per month for part time work, you pay all the shared bills and his bills too, while working 60 hour weeks.

If that's not "supporting him" financially and otherwise, what else should you, could you, possibly be doing?

He's taking advantage of you, he's mooching, and this is financial abuse. You are living with his father because this is the path of least resistance, and ease, for him, and he sees no reason to change it, and he absolutely won't change it in anyway that involves more effort on his part.

Dump this loser. You can afford to make it on your own, and it will be easier when you aren't paying his rent and his car payment.

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