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If he wants sex this early then that's what he wants. Nothing you say will make him stop wanting it. My BF and I didn't do the deed till we were together about seven months. Maybe that's extreme to some people but I am so happy we waited and took things slow. It is not too late to cut your losses and find someone who wants the same things you do.

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My question is very very clear. Why wasn't he vaccinated in 2021?

You claim he has decided not to take the vaccine because of something he thinks he heard now.

How did he get this far into the pandemic without the vaccine? And knowing that he was unvaccinated at this very late point in the COVID crisis, how do you explain your sudden interest in changing his mind?

I get that he needs it. But that doesn't make it any less ridiculous in a professional setting. Tell him to watch on a tablet so you don't also have to look at it. Problem solved right?

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The thing about being a grey rock is you can’t break even when he draws other people in, otherwise he will learn that this is an effective method to get under your skin.

And if your parents, due to their own religious beliefs, are willing to become his flying monkeys, you might need to take a step back from that relationship as well. Or at least stop discussing certain topics with them.

<3 sending love

Okay I don’t think leaving him is appropriate no matter what others say ! You both need to sit down and talk. Work on it together !!

I let my girlfriend play games on my phone, use it to take pictures and a few other things in situations where her phone isn't handy. She does the same for me. We trust each other, and neither of us uses it as an opportunity to go digging through texts, browser history or anything else.

At some point saying "no" to "can I use your phone to do <insert innocuous task>" get's weird.

It seems the first thing to do is to postpone your trip.

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The sex is good, the thing is that somehow when i come to completion i cry, so i asked him to not give me completion anymore...but aside from that the sex is great

In order for this to work she needs to tell you and show you proof of her credit card debt and all expenses and other debts...she could consolidate into one payment a month or multiple payments depending on what she owes. Discuss payment plans and savings plans. She sounds like a mess. With your help and guidance she could be on the right track and you both can be happy in your relationship but she needs to be honest.

Mostly in the evening or morning..

I would send that text message to her from your phone while she's sitting next yo you and tell her to start talking. Then, after she tells her washed down version. I would call the friend and tell her that gf told you everything and you want to confirm with her exactly who was with man 1 and 2. Hopefully, you get their names.

Then, if the relationship is over, you make an exit plan. It is workable you find a therapist to help navigate the road to trusting again

I'm going to echo what a lot of people are saying here except I won't necessarily say you should leave him.

He was obviously sexting with someone and they got him to send nudes. They were probably blackmailing him for money. Depending on what you define as cheating, he may have been cheating on you. At the very least, he is lying and being inappropriate with a stranger. Deleting messages before you can see them is so suspicious.

That wasnt your question. I wasn’t with him in 2021

I like that he has a erection because of me, I just don’t think he needs to show me every single time. I’d rather have it as an occasional peekaboo surprise.

You need to move secretly and break up over the phone or in a public places. This way you don’t have to go back to the apartment. You are too young to be dealing with that crap especially from a 43 year old.

That’s not the makings of a loving and supportive partner. They should care about what you care about. He is showing you that your anniversary does not matter to him even though it matters to you.

If he doesn’t fix this mistake, you should move on because there is absolutely someone out there who will value what you value without question.

If he wants to own his own gym someday, he will be too busy running a business to do any training. Running a gym would teach him the ropes of owning a gym. Also why couldn't he train people on his own time?