3 years! This is who he is! How he is and how he will be.

Do you want to be in a long-distance relationship seeing each other a few days a year for the rest of your life?

Thats what is going to happen. At 27 and a higher education you should be fully aware of that. Since your obviously aren't it's scary/

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I’m afraid of this. Thank you for your response. I appreciate it.

>I later got surveillance footage from my neighbor and he had placed the boulder before visiting me!

Your boyfriend? Brought a boulder to your house and put it next to your car just to see you hit it?

Ok...

obviously not or i wouldn’t have made this post.

I'm having trouble believing this.

Dude she knows and she's coming to us for help to not be abusive.

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"Empathy, empathy, put yourself- in the place of me."

The golden rule: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

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I would suggest seeking help from a professional therapist if you can find one and if you can afford it. They can teach you how to manage your impulses and how to communicate in a healthy way. I also would ask yourself: what do you get out of lashing out at him. If you weren't getting some kind of reward from it, you wouldn't be doing it. Then ask yourself is the reward greater than the harm you are doing both to him and your relationship?

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Nope

I have to say, your bf does not seem realistic about money. He really makes a substandard living, and "wants to own a gym someday" but making no concrete steps in that direction is just wishful thinking.

Noticing that his age is 33, I have to say if he hasn't gotten realistic about how to reach his dreams by this age, I'm thinking it's unlikely to ever happen. You can either accept that about him, or move on.

Personally, the second someone threatened my cat, I’d be kicking them out. Technically your problem solves itself in a month - she’s moving out. Avoid her as much as you can for this next month and then breathe a sigh of relief when she buggers off.

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You’re Probably reading too much into this. If she isn’t matching your energy, she’s just not that into you, or likes her other draft picks more

I am so confused as to why you are friends with her to begin with.

And if you dont want to invite her dont, but be prepared for the hurt and pushback from other friends. I mean im closer with some than others in my group, but i would never leave one person out. Especially when they have no idea as to why because you hang out with her on the regular.

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COMPROMISING????????

You probably need professional help

Just understand that there is no chance on earth that this relation will last longterm so now is a good time to start working on these anger issues

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If you don’t have the balls to ask her you won’t have the balls to keep her

I don't think there was a connection romantically. These are just my observations I made and I was hoping for people to talk me out of it :) I feel more sad and confused about her getting irritated by things that weren't meant to be seducing or in any way romantically and I hate that I might have made her feel uncomfortable, but so did she in the end after I disclosed myself. I expected nothing to change, but she changed her behaviour and for example denied my request she had agreed upon prior to my disclosure but then when she saw me being hurt because I had specifically requested to talk about the topic (during the lesson) for my sake to gain more knowledge on it - she was overly nice to me (all within 1 hour) which inevitably caused confusing on a basic human connection.

I think I am hurt in a sense that for one I might have gotten on someone's nerve with my mere presence and even showing someone my appreciation is annoying., secondly it's all a facade and you get treated nicely as a patient but in the end she doesn't "like" me, I am also very sensitive if people change behaviours towards me, I am a instable mind of state, so it's not good.

I want to let go, but it became so much more difficult now.

>how can we compromise?

• He has a tablet or other laptop positioned in his visual field but not visible to you.
• You guys rearrange the furniture so that he can see the tv from where he’s at but you can’t see it from where you’re at.
• You switch work stations.
• You establish that the living room is his workspace from 9-5 (or whatever) and you have a separate room/area that is your workspace. Each of you gets to control what happens in your respective workspaces.