I’m genuinely sorry that you feel bullied. Not my intent at all.

Just challenging the narrative that someone who feels genuine remorse for their pst actions would be reduced to “an annoying insect”

That’s all.

Overthink again for 1000 Alex

I'd probably wait until I had a definitive answer from the doctor. For now, I would either tell the FWB that I'm not feeling well, some cramping, whatever, and waiting for the doctor's input; or just brush it off with a dismissive answer such as busy today, can't really talk much. That's just me, and it might not be the right choice for you.

I think you could logically sit down and ask him how things are going and get to know him, but unless you've been openly rude, I think your girlfriend is overreacting.

> She’s moving out in a month

Problem solved. Don't do anything crazy, keep your stuff, yourself, and the cat away from her for the coming month, as much as possible. This battle is not worth it, she'll be gone. It'll cause way more drama and escalation than it is worth.

People change a lot from their late teens to early twenties. It's one of the most formative periods of our life. It isn't surprising that someone who worked great when you were 18 and 19 just isn't working anymore. Don't stay with someone just because you're already invested so much time. It's called Sunk Cost FALLACY for a reason.

Sike. Now i realise how patient she is being with me. I talked to her about it and she clarified everything patiently. I do not understand why on earth i am being jealous.

It’s fishy to wingman for someone with a very recent history of infidelity. Were I in OP’s shoes, I’d be very concerned over what went down that night and would need much better defined boundaries going forward we’re I to trust him.

There is no excuse for the lying nor even really for going to the girls house or for deleting the texts. He couldn’t be more suspicious.

Updateme

>>And mind you, he barely initiates sex with me anymore so how could he please ANOTHER woman when he rarely has sex with me???

This is obvious: He gets off on novelty. Now that you have been with him awhlie, you are no longer sexually novel. Another woman would be novel, so he'd fck her like mad (sorry) and possibly bring that energy to you as well, but it isn't a given. Until he got tired of her, too.

What incident are you talking about?

>there a definitely things I would like to change about him but no one is perfect right?

Can you expand on what things you would like to change about him?

You don't need to go right up to someone to tell them it's time to end the debate.

Also, you can just change the subject without telling everyone to stop.

There are certainly friendlier ways to solve the problem. But I don't think what he did was wrong either.

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Her getting her face touched by a crush from before you dated, has NOTHING to do with you in any way, shape, or form. She was single, she owed no one any "loyalty" whatsoever. You're taking a miniscule event and making it about you rather than some fleeting thing she experienced. Frankly, it was none of your business that it even happened. You need to let her know how much this event has effected you and talk it out with her. You seem to be dealing with some jealousy.

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Firstly you didn’t just come across the conversation you were looking through her phone. Which is a huge issue with privacy. You have no right to read her conversations.

Secondly I can see how you are trying to make this a trust issue because her crush had a gf at the time. But she didn’t tell her crush she just admitted to her friend that when he touched her face applying glitter she liked it. This does not make her untrustworthy. It actually makes her very trustworthy because she clearly didn’t act on how she felt.

And thirdly this is not traumatising. Please look that word up and learn what it actually means. This is you being insecure for absolutely no reason. You may want to work on this element of your personality otherwise being in a relationship is going to be very hard for you

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Boyfriend apologizes, friends say it's OK, nobody talks about silly, triggering, things. Everyone wins.

Can you please explain a bit

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Dude….theres so much wrong that i cant even unpack it

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