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Nah, he’s fine. But I’m worried this nitpicking might be you trying to find reasons to break off the engagement. Is this really the person you want to marry or are there actual issues?

NO. I did not say that. I made it clear in the post itself that I understand this was a completely normal incident. The problem I need help with is the overthinking it's causing.

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They thought my BF was purposefully trying to intimidate them. Like if you’re talking to someone , of course you’ll stand near them. Like obviously height doesn’t matter but they’re 5”3 and 5”1 and he’s like 6”1 so it was just a really really bad misunderstanding.

Your bf cheated. He went on a double date with his friend. You deserve better. I would get in Touch with the friends ex and find out how often your bf was with this friend when he was out cheating. There's more to the story here.

Oh my god, the older you get the more you’ll need to realize that partners WILL have experiences that they enjoyed with other people in the past, that’s just a part of figuring out who you are and what you like as you develop as a person. Be happy that she’s comfortable enough with herself that she’s able to explore herself and understand what she likes. You need to relax, she didn’t do anything wrong and you should apologize for reacting with a “confrontation” and snooping on her private conversations

So, no one was even supposed to touch her before you got together?

No. I did not say that I am not trusting her from now on. She is still my girlfriend and I absolutely trust her. What I am saying is that this incident, even though i dont want it to, is making me question her loyalty towards me. I DONT want to think like this cos i know i can do better

Him: I like the fact that you have a high sex drive just like me

You: So you're saying you only like me because of my sex drive?

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Explain that he was just standing up for you, as he should've. Nobody was going to win that debate right then and there. It was best to just drop it and that's what happened, as far as you and your boyfriend are concerned, you did the right thing.

"sorry if it came across as intimidating, he just felt the debating was getting out of hand and that we needed to change the subject"

It sounds like a beautiful morning still (waking up, cuddling, coffee). It's not her fault you were reading the Passion translation.

You should even be laughing about how she fell asleep on this ONE morning of all mornings. That's ONE morning out of all the shared mornings you've already had and will still have. Don't be dramatic and ruin the day for both of you...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! 🥳

You sound like you’re seriously insecure and need therapy before you drive him away. First you falsely accused him of cheating, he forgave you and made a harmless joke about how awesome you are, and now you’re holding that against him. Seriously, you need to stop this behavior.

Hey man, I think your feelings are completely fair to have in this situation.

When I read this, I can understand how someone can arrive at that conclusion; Trying to build up an impression again. Finding things to connect over:

• he wanted to know about her favorite places there and some recommendations.
• talking about how he falls in love with her favorite place there and how he can't wait to get back home so they can talk about it when they meet

So, its okay to feel uneasy about a lot this. Same thoughts would run through my head.

The issue thing is... we don't know if that is the reality.

That is just a theory.

And until we know what's factual, you're going to need more information.

You can be open with your partner and express how you feel. She could provide you with reassurance, and there is a chance she might even see your side too.

I know for myself, I have no desire to maintain an ex friendship because I know the potential metal battle that comes with it. I don't want to force my GF to deal with that mental load. Your GF might see it that way too, who knows.

But anyways... until you have more evidence. You have to stand by this:

>I'm at peace with that fact because I trust my GF and I know she wouldn't cheat on me.

Trust your GF until she gives you a reason not to.

And if you discover that he's making romantic advances, and she doesn't put space as a result... you have your first reason to explore your suspicions.

Yes. I understand that it is absurd. I feel pretty bad about myself for giving this small incident all this attention in the first place. But that is why i posted this. I need advice on how I should normally be thinking about this. Maybe examples can help.

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"Traumatized", are you serious? No, you're jealous over absolutely nothing. You can't trust her over something that happened before you were dating? You don't sound mature enough to be in a relationship from the get go.

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If you want to talk to your dad, just call him. Does he have any medical issues of his own? How often do you check on him?

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If this is traumatizing for you you shouldn’t be dating while you receive professional counseling. If that’s hyperbole you might be able to work through this insecurity yourself.