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There are so many fallacies here, but did he actually get covid? Was he vaccinated? Is he overweight?

Yeah this very much. Like what... 0 reason to go to a single girl's house your friend who is trying to score with her. Leave the friend to go alone man. Who's walking there dog at 1am anyway. An excuse for the friend to hang out with her longer and them to keep the night going.

Also OP if you read this... Exactly what he is doing, this is what causes you to mistrust in the first place... Someone lying and breaking your trust. He's has now likely caused you to doubt him, check in more and just more hassle. If you want an easy life, this is not the way to do it. He needs a big talk to understand why he's causing himself more, not less problems and just not respecting you by lying.

It's up to you to decide if you're happy with his actions, not him to hide it so you never get to decide. If you over react or in a way he thinks is excessive for the situation, it's up to him to talk to you about it. Lying does nothing but cause small betrayals constantly that break down the relationship more than he realises. It's not worth it.

If you can't see eye to eye on these situations, you aren't compatible and lying won't change that.

That being said, he did answer the phone and face time, so tbh... besides just saying he was somewhere else, he did not really try to hide it. I really think anyone cheating would be trying hard to hide evidence because they know they are doing something wrong. He sounds like he didn't care enough to, because he probably didn't think it was actually wrong, but lied to get himself out of possible trouble... and on doing so caused trouble.

Big big trust conversation should be incoming here. But I actually think that's probably the brunt of it, unless there was other girls there. And if there's going to be hanging out with regular girls on nights like this, and going to their place etc, you should be invited.

OP you are a controlling POS and yes your wife is cheating probably because you are abusive with her. Divorce her so you can go be alone and your wife can actually have a non-abusive man in her life. Get some therapy. You need tons of it.

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>I could hear him talking to himself saying "every fucking time"

So you're both ungrateful AND annoying.

Yes, I think I was kicking. After I was on the ground and being held down. That part is fuzzy still but that’s how I remember my kicking coming into play because the rest of the time I was walking around trying to gather myself.

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“We don’t share the same views about sex”

This isn’t working for me anymore. I have valued our time together but have realized that I need to figure out who I am outside of a relationship before actually starting one. Say that.

You've been dating for 4 months. You're not in a place yet where a discussion needed to be had over him taking an assignment that's only 2 months. Also, missing your birthday because of this is not "potentially notable" to hold against him at a later date. He was not obligated to check with you first, and I'm not sure how you view time but "1/6th" of the year is not a long time.

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That’s your values and your beliefs so I don’t see why you’re getting a hard time for it. You don’t need to explain why you’re not interested, you just tell her you’re not and she accepts it. Don’t make her feel bad about her choices, so it’s better not mentioning that at all. You’re perfectly entitled to tell someone you don’t see them that way.

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Do you think we chose this system or even have the power to change it? I agree. It’s not logical or productive. But, refusing to tip only hurts the workers and doesn’t change the system. Most Americans that are here to complain about the system are really just cheap and don’t want to pay for anything. If we didn’t have tipping, food prices would increase. Americans can’t handle that either.

Only you can decide if this is worth it, but personally I'd move out regardless and reconsider this relationship from a distance; you don't deserve the way he's talking to you or treating you and there's no excuse for it. He's over 30, not 16, and he needs to grow up enough to communicate if you're going to have a life together. You were barely adults when you picked each other out, and you might've just outgrown each other. It happens. Or maybe distance will give you both perspective and you'll realize that this is really what you want. But either way it will be a change that cements how serious you are about things being in an untenable state and needing to change drastically before they can actually work.

You could just say you're not interested innher like that. It's not that hard. If she pushes, stop engaging. Sometimes feelings are just not there.