You take the L here and learn from it.

Don’t idealise people, and don’t let your feelings run away with. What you feel isn’t what she feels.

To you, this was a once-a-lifetime-opportunity and perfect connection. To her it could have been a guy she seems to be clicking really well with but she’s just got out of a relationship with a really neurotic guy so she’s a bit wary.

You let your projection of feelings for her cause you to overplay your hand because you were largely thinking of what the interactions meant to you instead of balancing that with what they may mean to her. Take people as they come, not as you feel they might be. She told you she’s bad at texting and you still went for her over her lack of texting after that and ultimately sabotaged yourself because you got in your head too much (like being aware of her activity on socials whilst tracking her text progress with you, that signals you were really giving a lot of attention and thought to what she was doing).

Loosen up a bit, learn, and use the lessons to handle the next time like a champ.

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I was in a similar relationship and I left. I felt alone and lonely all the time while in the relationship. I'm single over a year now and I don't have these feelings any more.

Im not sure why you stay. You live afraid to live a normal life. Walking on eggshells all the time is only waiting for some to break.

I hope you get help for yourself. You deserve to live and enjoy your life

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Only you can determine if the relationship is worth saving, but based on what you’ve said, your bf checked out of the relationship a long time ago. I’ve been with my husband for almost 13 years and if we go 2 days without spending time together/really chatting about what’s going on, I feel like we’re missing something. We will get up early to spend time with each other or shower together in the morning so we have at least 15 minutes just us - especially on the days we’re both busy.

You deserve to be happy, and it doesn’t seem like you’re happy. Also doesn’t seem like your bf is happy. But like I said, only you can determine if this relationship is worth saving.

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That's perfect then. He believes you won't leave. Prove him wrong so he wakes up and realises he needs you.

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he said he’s going to try and stop, but I honestly wish it didn’t take getting caught for him to make that decision

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His explanation is a lie.

Yes. He is using your parents as a tool to control you. Just as your parents use religious bs to try and control you.

Good for you to understand that this is YOUR one and precious life.

Read some Mary Oliver and breathe into your own authenticity.

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