What is? Because it sounds as if you don’t want him to go or that you believe that you should make this decision together. If he’s not including you in the decision then he’s clearly saying that he isn’t at the place where he believes that you make life decisions together.

Reading this I hardly see it really moving past the 2 hour booty calls. Yes relationships are work. If she's complaining about her "Boyfriend" coming over. Than just take it for what it is and just don't be as serious with her. By the sound of things. she's not a keeper IMO.

He is going to cheat on you. He isn’t even hiding his shadiness. Leave him and find someone loyal.

Tell him "I can't afford to keep buying all of this stuff for you. I like you and see a family with you too, but I can't afford to keep buying you all the stuff you ask me for. It's starting to feel like I'm a bank for you instead of a partner."

If he's serious about you, he should be receptive to how you feel here or have some sort of valid explanation as to why this happened. If he gets mad at you, think about this: why is he mad at you that you don't spend your own hard-earned money on him? Is this someone you really want to be with if this is how he looks at your money and opinions?

If not soon you’ll be raising the second baby coming.

They being…your bf and his friend? And the girl? If your bf is being a wingman, letting his friend go back to the girls place ALONE is the best thing a wingman could do? Something definitely doesn’t add up here.

Guys, help me out here since I never was a wingman or had a wingman, but doesn't that usually end at the bar and not in another person's apartment? Wouldn't your job be done as soon as your buddy and the girl leave the bar together?

I know it's really hard but I know thank you

She has no problems when there's no work. But still complains that its too much preparation when I come over

I completely understand you and really respect your comment ! Thank you side note my daughter is stepdaughter I do love her as my own but it's getting harder and harder every day to be normal around home

You need to talk to her and listen

Sounds life she was hanging out with her old friends. You sound incredibly jealous. I mean she tried talking to you about it while she was drunk and you freaked on her. You then doubled down again the next day.

Again you snooped through her phone instead of talking to her about it days later. What if you hadn't found anything?? And was it the first time you've snooped through her stuff because you felt suspicious?

You keep reacting irrationally. She has reason to be defensive and withhold telling you stuff if you're going to be volatile about it. And I doubt it's the first time you've been like this.

You need to communicate with her. And yeah she's going to be upset you went through her phone so please don't use it as excuse to make it okay because you think you found something. Trust runs both ways and there are issues on both sides.

You know what you have to do.

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Go over when she doesn't have to work. See what she says. And see if she makes an excuse. TBH this seems a bit off.

She isn't going to change, I totally understand not wanting to be away from your child, but you will be wondering what she's really doing when she goes to the store, gas station, etc.... Without trust a relationship is done, I would walk away.

Unless you can live with her leading a double life... Some people can do it but I couldn't.

The biggest problem here is the lack of communication. If you want something real, you should have (and should) tell him exactly that. You said you started talking to the guy over social media, but what, are you just hoping for the best? That's not how relationships work. You need to use your words.

So now, he's told you exactly what he wants and what this is. That doesn't make him a bad person. He's being completely honest about what he wants. You said no to a movie and sex, but nothing else. It's like you're expecting that declining that will make him "wake up" and ask you out on a date and want a relationship.

You can only know where this is going if you ask. Stop guessing. Good luck.

She said she has to work the next day and can't sleep well when Im there

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Thank you for this!

So basically a 2 hour booty call ? This seems very odd. Could potentially be a red flag.

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The overall grade is heavily based on the assignments, but my school does have a policy where lack of attendance can impact your grade. Although, he has been fairly lenient about it, as have other professors. I still want to stop skipping though.

Your wanting a relationship he’s wanting sex only.

Unless you're citing this as the reason you're breaking up with him it's probably pointless to say anything. It's not like he's going to stop doing it just because you ask him. There's a social disconnect in people willing to publicly exhibit their lust like this. It's a personality type, not just an annoying habit.

No man should ever ask you for money especially if he's in the military, please don't send this fake man money have you never watched the Tinder Swindler on netflix