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I wouldn't assume that your positions will change on this matter. This isn't like "you haven't tried this food, so how do you know?" This is something that's been thought about, and a preference has evolved.

Love is not enough in a relationship. You really have to have compatible life goals. One example I often use is children: If one person wants children, and the other doesn't, someone is going to be unhappy no matter what happens.

But even if you agree on children, there are lots of details. You've encountered one: Adoption versus having your own biological kids. You can also get into issues on how to raise kids, like what forms of discipline to use, whether they should have an allowance, and so on.

You may want to talk more about your views on what married life would be like, and what raising kids through to college (and beyond) would be like. It may be that you'd find some other differences that would give you a clearer idea on whether the relationship would work or not. For instance, you may agree on everything else, but then find that your partner believes children should move out at age 18, get a job, and pay for rent and stuff, and that saving money for college is wrong (the kid should pay their own way). If you don't hold that view, there is probably no way to reconcile these differences.

Here’s the thing: it isn’t true. It doesn’t make sense and “I wanted to avoid this conversation” just means “I don’t care about your feelings.”

That is why you called me dumb and wrote about how the poor workers should be paid through tips because the ‘employers’ margins don’t allow for decent wages but obviously that was not what you meant

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I understand wanting to tip 20% as i also do this.... however if i did all that stuff for my wife and she was more interested in the waiter or waitresses tip than anything else id bee upset w her too. I get it that u should tip well, i agree that u should. But he was trying to show u a good night and celebrate you and u were hung up on money.

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When have I ever said restaurants don’t make a profit? Small margins are still a profit. When you sell a lot of product, small margins can make you a lot of money. Unfortunately, there’s no room for adjustment with small margins. So, increased labor costs would require increased revenue. Prices are currently falsely deflated by tipping. I’m all for getting rid of tipping and setting prices fairly, but people would complain about that too. One thing I know for sure, tipping your server doesn’t solve anything except taking money they earned right out of their pocket.

You want completely different things that will ultimately lead to a breakup. Yes, you are young, but why would you stay in a relationship that you know has a time limit?

And what is going to happen if you accidentally get pregnant? You know that your boyfriend wants biological children and would push you to keep an unwanted pregnancy. Is that something you want to risk?

Not to mention the post that was on here the other day from the woman who had also told her husband that she never wanted to be pregnant, and he sabotaged her birth control to get her pregnant and he did.

Be very, very careful that you are using a birth control method that cannot be tampered with.

May do but restaurants are struggling because of changes to how they have to do business. Not because of wages. There are sources which state many restaurants are making a killing on alcohol buying bottles and selling them at 10+ times the original cost but yes they are all making a loss hence why the owners all wear tags live in ghettos and ride community bikes to work or more accurately live in the alley behind their business!

Creeps as in 30 year old men that chase young girls?

He’s friends with a guy who cheated on his fiancé.

Good people don’t stay friends with people who cheat.

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Well you are clearly smarter than me no restaurant makes a profit hence why they can’t pay decent wages but people keep opening them and the primary purpose of a business is to make money so I clearly don’t understand business! Or all restaurant owners are so nice that they are feeding people at cost. Lol. You are not naive I was being nice. I do not know what you are!

This answer is very helpful for me, thank you. This is hard.

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I will also look into the book.

If he was cheap with OP he wouldn’t have brought her out to a fancy restaurant lol #logic

Thank you. The kind words mean more than I thought it would.

At work 🙃

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Your husband is 25 and way too old to fall for something like that. I think he was actually having an affair, the woman found out about you, possibly blackmailed him, and then exposed him to everyone when he said no. You have no proof of what happened since he blocked them and deleted all the messages.

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Info: where did you meet him?