Well then you’re down to option 3. He doesn’t sound like a very good partner.

Might be helpful to inject some more structure in the time you spend together. Like if she prefers schedules, you could get a calendar and mark days/times when you want to spend time doing certain activities, or maybe other days where you are together in your place but have time to do things alone together... if that makes sense.

My gf and I do this, where we set up an hour or two a day where we both go into our own rooms and spend time alone doing whatever we want. We are both kinda introverted so it helps us decompress and relax.

But, to avoid "a conversation like this," all she had to do was delete him. Yet, she kept him knowing that "a conversation like this" could ensue.

Doesn't it seem most likely that in reality, whatever value she sees in him is worth her 1) risking "a conversation like this;" 2) being okay with lying to you to your face the first time; and 3) clinging to her lie, again to your face?

I'd say this guy seems pretty valuable to your GF.

Whether you have that much value to her, only you can evaluate that.

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So you're abusive and your wife cheats? What a lovely environment you're raising all those children in.

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Whenever I say anything, he just rolls his eyes or ignores me. If I say I want to leave, he doesn’t care.

He could leave no tip what so ever if it's a dealbreaker for you, he should leave you and look for someone more sane.

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wow im glad u feel so entertained

That's a good suggestion actually. Thank you so much. Usually when something like this happens I start defending my point which makes things worst. I'm going to apply this method for a week or two to see how it works and decide my step forward.

you shouldn’t be afraid of sharing your feelings because your partner could be empathetic and experience that sadness with you. having an honest and healthy relationship is really rewarding. however, it’s ok to say you’re not ready to open up about certain things yet. just be sure to communicate things like that to your partner (like that your loneliness isn’t because she fell asleep, you’re just trying to process a loss still)

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You know, it’s not a long relationship so maybe instead of trying to really get it to work out (because she seems like some work) you could end things? I mean, if you can go so much time without talking to her it’s an advantage for you. Just be honest of why you’re leaving.

All he is receiving is that he put in all that effort and you nagged him about a tip he felt he could not afford to pay.

However, it would irk me too. I find it mortifying to be out with a cheap tipper and often throw an additional five or something when they aren't looking. I also don't go back for a second date if they are that cheap.

I think you need to let it lie for a day or so before bringing it up that you feel he is a lousy tipper and you would prefer less outings and more reasonable tips to go with them.

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One of my favourite things on Reddit is seeing posts like this and then spending a good number of minutes being stunned by American tipping culture. Each time is as good as new.

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The best revenge is a life well lived.

Thank you so much for the list. I'll definitely Google and check them out. I am giving him time to grow as I still feel he's young and might need some time. But like you suggested if there's still no improvement, I'm going to bail our of this relationship.

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You're already happy not talking to her for a long period of time. You're better off single.

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