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They were coming back to our home after and went to let her dog out

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You agree it's unhealthy so must agree it's also unfair, yet you still give her the ability to control it all. Where is your agency? And do you really think this dance isn't somehow affecting your children?

Take a firm stand. You make the choice. It doesn't need to be the end of anything other than this back and forth on her terms. It needn't be unkind or brutal, but come from a place of love and friendship.

I know you want to reconcile, but that takes two and a lot of work, and right now you have a co-parent who decides daily whether they're in a dating mood or not.

Update: I confronted her and she doubled down until I gave her evidence, then she said she lied because she didn’t want a “conversation like this”. She said she told him that she had a boyfriend, so at least she wasn’t planning to cheat.

She hasn't sent me over my tipping point yet lol... for me to be single.

You don’t want to lose your stepson, but do you want him to grow up in a house with parents that abuse one another? You guys need to break up and get help separately.

> I told him I’m okay with doing this but that I want to work a year in my field (I’m a new graduate) before doing so, So that I have connections in our home country.

Completely reasonable. If you can't get on the same page, you can always consider doing ld for this time.

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He sure doesn’t seem like a man - what kind of loser tips only 10%?

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Aside from her pet peeve (am I using this term correctly?) our time together is pretty enjoyable. Though when she acts up , she always gives in and wants to talk to me.

This has me thinking .... If I do experience this same exact issue with other females, is this a healthy way of treating the issue ?

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Like I said.. y’all both need to grow up. This seems really petty. A real “man” let’s his partner pay her or his part. This is this stuff you see the people on jersey shore fight about lol

I would not want that apology. Leave her alone. You would just be an annoying insect in the serenity of whatever adult life she has attained.

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I’m surprised at the amount of criticism OP is getting. She’s right that 10% is too low and if you can’t afford to tip at least 15% then you probably shouldn’t go out to eat. Unfortunately servers rely on tips and a very low tip gives the impression that the service was poor.

That said I think OP should be clear ahead of time that she will not eat somewhere unless a fair tip will be given. They could even say that whoever pays for the food the other person tips so no one is left to cover it all. Also I don’t think being 19 is an excuse to not tip a fair amount but that’s just me.

Sounds like he’s not interested in being with you but doesn’t want to be the one to break it off. This taking a break, if you can’t physically leave the home, maybe just cease to engage with him and act like he’s not there, do your own thing. If he carries on regardless, it’s time to let it go, if he realises you’re taking a break and makes an effort, good. But it just sounds like he’s trying to waste your time.

Thanks! I'm really not looking for forgiveness. I've moved past feeling guilt about it through my own efforts. I just want to offer her an apology if it might help her in some way

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>I'm good with not talking to her for weeks or even months

Sounds like you might as well be single.

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