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Yeah..its like a novel. All about a cheater bragging about himself.

I'm a generous tipper, normally 25%,but I was definitely not tipping that when I was 19. While in still think 10% is to low, depending on the total bill, id say its acceptable for a 19 year old.

What more worrying to me is you keep saying that, "WE shouldn't go to place HE can't afford to tip 20%." I understand you work, I understand it was your birthday but if your so concerned about the tip, and clearly this is an issue that has come up before, you should have just offered to pay the 20%.

He did the best he could for you and that was what he could afford. He's 19, give the guy a break

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Thank you ❤️ I am most definitely thinking about doing therapy, and I agree that it would help in our relationship and bettering myself.

You're probably right about a big deal out of nothing, but I must have explained something wrong if you think I am upset that I made breakfast.

I believe I was saddened because we have spent every morning together since before we were official, I have always had low expectations about b-days, so she's been hyping it up, the day comes, and it's the first day we don't spend the morning together. That's life I guess, but I did feel lonely.

Yeah, that's when I stopped reading too. Either fake OR he is so overly infatuated with this woman he barely knows he is constantly looking for any hints that she feels the same way about him and over analyzes every interaction.

She needs to go back to therapy as it's clear she is dealing with a lot. I don't think someone wearing a headdress 10+ years ago when cultural appropriation was talked about is a reason to deny your right to go see your bestest friend get married.

Of course she can decline to come, but it doesn't give her the right to dictate to you that you can't go. Has there been any other instances where the bride or groom has said anything remotely racist and it could feel as if you are taking their side over her? That's the only thing I could think of that might upset her?

Okay then, tell him exactly that. And if he still keeps saying just vote better then you reconsider how it makes you feel being in a relationship with him.

I mean it was started by the tips and that was the main concern, so i think the tips is definitely the main problem here

This definitely ain’t about the tips. And if it is you should grow up.

You ask about this calmly and from the position of "Isn't that the guy who was hitting on you?" If it is him, let her explain the rest.

Don't let her deflect or try to change the subject. It's small, but a fundamental breaking of trust, an outright lie, but why?

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I dont know why everyone is downvoting my comment when everyone else said break up aswell lol, if he has fallen out of love with her and in love with someone else he should pursue that.

Honestly if he doesn’t have this basic social etiquette then I wouldn’t do waiter service. There are many options where you can do take out or fast casual.

I get incredibly annoyed about everything all the time. I’ve found if I vocalize why I am truly upset in a situation so we can talk about it, it helps. Like “I’m getting really frustrated that you’re talking to me about this when it’s your turn to do the laundry and you haven’t done it yet.” Instead of “I don’t give a shit about Star Wars”. I try to get to the root of why something he’s doing is bothering me and it’s very rarely the thing itself (except when he walks around the house loudly singing the one line of a song he knows over and over. That’s objectively annoying). I also practice some deep breathing and physically removing myself from his presence if I think I’m about to wig out. Not storming away but saying “I’m not mad I’m just going to take a minute to collect my thoughts”.

This post is a mess and she's probably cheating, but man, do you remember all her underwear by heart? I don't even remember all mine. "I've never seen this underwear, she must be cheating" is a weird stance.

You obviously don't trust her, you don't need reddits validation. Don't stay in a relationship with someone you are convinced is cheating on you.

I think we all have stuff and the sooner we address it, the better life is on every level. I would ask a therapist these questions. Maybe it’s what you witnessed growing up or it’s a defense mechanism. A therapist would help you figure out why and help you to change your behavior.

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You need to talk to a specialized therapist and unpack your anger issues. Right now your boyfriend is in an abusive and toxic relationship. y'all are both young and this could ruin his and your mental health. it seems like you're wondering why you lash out at him and strangers on reddit wont be able to tell you why. Anger issues stem from somewhere, talk to a therapist so you can figure out what happened to you and after you do that, then you will have to spend years unpacking those issues. then once you become a kinder person thats when y'all should consider dating. but as for now get therapy.

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I wanted to try to rationalize everything, until the last sentence of the second paragraph. It's even possible nothing happened beyond drinking and hanging out with them considering how she worded that message. But it's still a problem that she lied to you.

So where you go from here is you talk to her. I'm the first person to come on here and say I don't condone snooping. But what's done is done. You did and you saw what you saw. The fact that you snooped doesn't make reality any less true. So you can either keep pressing the issue until she opens up, or you can just be honest that you saw the texts. As it stands, she's trickle truthing you.

She'll likely turn things around on you for snooping, but again, that doesn't change reality. So hold firm and talk this through. I don't want to sit here and just jump to the extreme and say she's cheating and you should leave her. I don't know if she's cheating (and right now I honestly assume she isn't), and I don't want to jump to ending things because if no cheating occurred, if she just comes clean, this is something you should be able to work through, and then of course you have a child together.

I would, however, suggest you don't rush to get married until this is all sorted out. Because if ultimately you decide you can't trust her, then at that point you shouldn't be in the relationship, let alone consider making it legal. Good luck.

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