They usually target lonely pensioners because youngsters are more educated on scams thanks to the internet.

Frankly, if you send any money, I can only offer a sympathetic facepalm for ya.

Run for your life. Don’t invest any more of yourself into whatever this arrangement is

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Part of dating someone is seeing their views and opinions political or otherwise and comparing them to yours.

Are you trying to explain your feelings on his opinions, or are you trying to change his opinion? Mostly because they're vastly different approaches.

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Consider that you have a preference for men who like to date women who are barely legal adults and not fully biological adults. That should worry you.

Just to give you some honest perspective - me and my husband have the same age gap. He also has exes in another country, some of which he still talks sometimes (which is fine for me). One of them actually hosted him when he lost him home and job. We made the joint decision to pay this particular ex a sum of money we found fit.

Your relationship CAN work. The age gap will make it harder, but not impossible. In our case, day to day, it's not a big deal. Your partner needs to understand that you trail behind him in maturity, and will be doing so for a long time. You are younger, there is no shame in that. Your partner also needs to check all other boxes any partner should - open, honest, communicates with you and makes you a priority. If this sounds like your partner sit him down and ask him to please sever ties with this woman. That's your right.

There’s nothing wrong with what you’re saying here as far as your own perspective goes. But what you’re ignoring is that a middle aged man should not be comfortable with a 20 year old as a partner. When you’re standing on the 45 year old side of it, 20 looks and feels extremely young and inappropriate. Which means you’re dating someone who is totally comfortable with inappropriate situations. Want more proof? Look at what he’s doing with his ex.

There are feelings you shouldn't share, but most them you should share with partner. It does not work well with some people. Unfortunately truth is your question has no one answer because answer varies from person to person.

There are people frustrated that their partner does not share their troubles and feelings, because they want to help them and fix issues that will never be fixed unless it is first adressed as being an issue.

You don't let this go you let her go

You being played

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You don’t need us to tell you exactly how bad this man’s judgement is. Your last paragraph shows that you know. This isn’t someone with whom you can get into any financial or legal entanglement. If they’re middle aged and exhibiting this level of horrible judgement then you know there’s little to no chance that he’s going to grow or change. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don’t shackle yourself to this dead weight.

10+ years ago, it hadn't really hit a lot of people how insulting it was to do the headdress thing. I remember back in grade school (a lot longer than 10 years ago) how we would make feathered headbands out of construction paper while we were taught about the totally symbiotic relationship between the Native Americans and the pilgrims. We've learned a lot since then. We learn and grow as people and it's unrealistic to think people don't make mistakes, even racial ones.

Maybe bring up couples therapy. It can help define the paths you're on and whether those will be together or apart. Hopefully together.

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Dude I think you’re honest making a big deal over nothing. You’re guilting her into you being upset over not making breakfast?

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I think that’s the bare truth of it. I understand how important trust is, but when stuff like this happens it goes all out of the window so to speak. I can’t speak on why she’s done that but whatever reason it is isn’t a good one for me

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Confront her about it. If she doubles down on the lie or doesn't have a satisfactory reason then you should let her go.

She did him a favor. He should move tf on

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