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Same age, race & occupation. Has likes from the restaurant they were at and I asked him for the information above

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You’re not being unreasonable. If he’s serious about you, he shouldn’t still be connected with her

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Any man that talks about his ex being a bad person or talking negatively about an ex is a huge red flag....

I agree it’s unhealthy to be hot and cold. It’s toxic to maintain this type of contact without clear intention to what she wants in future. I also have said that I have feelings and boundaries same as her. It’s not solely up to her but the ball is def in her court as she knows I want to work it out. It just feels like she wants to work it out,spend time together ,start to open up but then pull back and enforce the idea that she is unsure and focused on herself

are you sure its the same person?

Oh, it’s fake as fuck.

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You didn't "attack" him first

You attacked him first.

Dont play it down.

Not once in your post do you mention that he got violent other than pushing you down.

You on the other hand were throwing stuff and kicking him.

Thank you

Lmao literally

I totally understand. More what I mean is that I don’t want to get harassed about it. A lot of the people on here have just been rude and brutal. I’m always open to advice because clearly I need it desperately, however, I just don’t care for the bullying/harassment.

You aren’t mature enough to be in a relationship. There’s no such thing as “accidental” cheating. This was deliberate. Break up with your boyfriend so he can find someone he deserves, then go have more accidents with a clear conscience.

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You said “don’t mention the age gap” but it has everything to do with the situation you’re in; you started dating this 44 year old man when you were still a teenager and he was fresh out of a two-year engagement. Have you had a serious relationship before him? Or is this your first one? Because that’s also relevant information.

I was raised by my grandparents and great-grandparents, I usually feel more comfortable around the elderly than with my peers, I get it, but even as a 24 year old the idea of dating a teenager is skeevy to me. Having a preference for someone older than you is common, but it’s important to keep in mind why someone so much older would be interested in you who is more than half his age.

As much as you don’t want hear anything about it, this is as relevant to the conversation at hand as any other detail in your relationship.

Yeah the whole situation was a nightmare. My concern is really that I think she is using him too. I’m not mad at the girl I mean to her, somebody else’s boyfriend is giving handouts?!! Hell yeah! I mean shit who wouldn’t take advantage😂 but I think she might’ve lied to him or mislead him…she said her family was dying and stuck there in Peru, then I do some digging and find out they are absolutely fine in America.

I agree it’s def pretty big. If anything you should slow things down in the relationship

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How long has he been doing this?

I'll be honest, I've been the older guy in a relationship like this. I was fresh out of a divorce and started dating someone 10 years younger than me, looking back it wasn't a good decision for either of us, but you asked not to give advice regarding the age gap so I won't.

At the beginning of that relationship, I gave my ex-wife some financial support when needed. She left me the house, and rent is significantly more expensive on a monthly basis than a mortgage payment, so even though she earned more income, my lower cost of life expenses put me in a more stable situation. I felt like I had a moral obligation to kick in financially until she could stabilize, especially because we split custody and I didn't want the mother of my children to be financially struggling if I had the resources to help. Within about 6 months she had fully stabilized and no longer needed the help, and she's since remarried and has a solid 2-earner household now. She moved to a different city and we both agreed it would be best for the kids to not have to switch school systems, so now I have weekday custody and actually receive child support from her. I'm applying for a remote job that comes with a significant pay raise, and if I get that, it'll probably flip to where I'm paying the child support instead of receiving it.

It's pretty common in amicable separations for the person in the better financial situation to help the other person get back on their feet. Going from 2 incomes to 1 income is a significant financial hit and unless you're a pretty high income earner it's not something that's easy to recover from. But if this has been going on for a long period of time, I'd be suspicious, and I definitely wouldn't merge finances with somebody who's still supporting an ex. Keep that separated until that situation is resolved.

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