It's possible. A lot will depend on how and why the cheating happened.

HELL NO. Run like hell.

This is shit of the bull. I'm positive you can find a guy who will not try to steal your laptop treat you much better, who is NOT six hours away.

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I would wish him the best, depression is very difficul, but absolutely not see this person romantically. He must work on himself and that takes a lot of time and effort.l

We can’t answer this question for you. She should go to a drug store and buy a pregnancy test. She could also go see her doctor. Good luck to both of you.

“Hey, honey, it looks like this conversation is headed toward an argument. We don’t argue well on video chat, so let’s change the topic and discuss this the next time we’re together in person.”

Simply don’t argue with her on video chat anymore. If she insists on continuing the fight, gently disengage and politely end the call the best you can.

Not talking on the phone isn't an option, at least not one that I could or would want to uphold

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If you want to go through the pain of being betrayed again then reconcile

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Unless used “perfectly” every time, condoms alone only have about an 87% efficiency rating. Go to the drug store and get a pregnancy test if she’s over a week late.

Next time you’re having a disagreement, tell her that you’re uncomfortable with how you are treated over video and that you’d be happy to discuss in person, then change the subject.

He put himself on video. I'm sorry if it comes off as stupid. I just don't want to be conned

Stop talking to her on video chat. If you’ve told her before that you find it disrespectful and she still does it, that means she doesn’t respect you enough to give a shit.

> and I said when I'm ready for a relationship I'll work on being more secure lol

Lol, oookaaay, not sure why you’re telling me, I really don’t care what you do, I was just answering your question, you were the one taking it like it was criticism.

Speaking from experience, she is 100% more likely to cheat if you take her back.

If you don't respect yourself, why would she respect you?

End this and every single relationship where cheating is involved. If you were married 21 years, I'd still give you the same advice.

Rip the band aid off. You've wasted two more years of this girls life that you didn't need to waste. 2 years where she could have been back in her old city, working her old job and getting over her failed relationship with you surrounded by people she loves. Instead, you've spent the past two years letting her becoming more dependant and reliant on you, which is going to hurt her more in the long run.

Please, please get professional help.

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If you take her back then you're telling her that cheating isn't a deal breaker.....cheating should always be a deal breaker

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Yeah I do have disorganised attachment and I said when I'm ready for a relationship I'll work on being more secure lol. Ooookaaay thanks for your input!