this man sounds trash. you’re giving him a roof over his head, looking after him and he can’t even sling his neck and give some good head? girl, you and your pay check deserve way more than this sack of potatoes. think of how much happier you could be in a years time if you leave him and find someone who is way more suited to you in every way. he will fully just sit back and continue to let this happen, don’t let him! he’s comfortable and you should rip the rug from under his feet.

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The whole relationship is toxic. Split up. Do a LOT of work on yourself

You both have issues you need to work on and don’t need to be together.

Thank you. Life is so messy.

It sounds like you two are abusing each other. Unless you're both willing to go to therapy and commit to big changes, separating is probably the best call.

This is a scam!! Never send any money to people when you are just meeting up - especially when you do not se them in real life!!!!

Called Nigeria scam.- take a look at James Veitch you tube clips - on how to deal with guys like this - they are hilarious!

Looks like you both chose violence here. Red flags on both sides.

First step would be to communicate & apologise to each other.

I was afraid to hear this answer, but deep down I knew it was the bigger possibility. I am truly struggling with the fact that I “attacked” first. Like I brought this on myself, he would’ve had no reason to do what he did if I didn’t start it. If only I just backed away and cooled down.

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You are hurting this much because you made up that whole idea of you two together. You kinda did is to yourself. You can't really know anything unless you try and since you two never been together you really can't know that she is the one and that you were meant to grow old. I've been through it all. It's different once you date and then once you move in together and sometimes you see some things that your partner does that you don't like.

My advice is to don't be close to them for a while. Focus on something else. Date. Learn more about nes people and if they like you back then imagine things cuz then you can do that together. It's better.

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In short - attacks of this kind is a BIG RED FLAG.

Find a lawyer - check your finances NOW

Ensure that you are ok as much as you can.

Even though you might loose something it is ok.

Just prepare to get the hell out of there.

Separate ways I hope. This is not a good situation

This is a scam. He is a con.

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Who said anything about scared? And YOU were the one that said you had disorganized attachment, not me, but now you’re claiming to have secure attachment? Which is it? And I never said any attachment style is bad, thats you projecting your assumptions onto to me, each attachment style has its pros and cons. It’s only bad when it gets in the way of your goals in life or hurts people you’re in relationships with.

Seriously you asked why you’re so physically infatuated and you literally said your last relationship drained you and you want just the physical right now, so seems rather obvious why you’d be more focused and drawn to the physical. But if you want to go on a wild goose hunt for other reasons, I guess more power to you.

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