What you’re mention proves my point, so maybe you don’t see what I’m saying. So here, let me try to explain this way instead, it doesn’t sound like you’re detached, it sounds like you’re infatuated. And often in situations like yours, where you normally don’t care about looks, since right now you do and you’re infatuated with it, it’s probably because you can’t have it, ie you know a relationship won’t work, so it’s all the more tempting. Here’s an analogy. Chocolate cake gets really boring if you have it every meal, but if you tell yourself you can’t have it, it becomes very tempting and when you do indulge it taste amazing. Right now he’s chocolate cake that you’re telling yourself you can’t have.

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A crazy amount of missing reasons, they badly need to separate.

Thanks for digging

Mark Gleeson took some sleeping pills, had some wine, shoved tampons up his nose and went to sleep. But people like to ignore all of that and just pretend he died because he had a stuffy nose.

No I don’t think you’re crazy or that you should break up. Therapy helps. Trust me.

He might've had other health issues. And not to mention it happened in '96. Your fear is irrational. Plenty of people have rhinoplasty everyday without a problem. They are also unable to breathe through their nose while healing and survive.

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Yeah i am sure as I ended it I felt good when I did it because I knew he wasn't for me emotionally but physically I thought he was beautiful. We get along well as friends hes a good guy, I just didn't want to waste time romantically If I didn't feel we had something between us, he is quite emotionally immature and I need someone who can communicate well so yeah... I'm definitely sure I don't want anything solid with him I just think physically he's exactly what I imagine my dream looking man to look like but I can't figure out why. Looks have never played a huge part in my relationships that's not what I seek. A part of me felt a bit inferior when we dated like I didn't deserve it but now it's casual I feel like that's silly! But yeah i can't work it out

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Why can't you go? She thinks she's going to be jumped by racists, does she think by going to a wedding that it means you're a racist too? What's going on there?

This does sound very controlling. Does your partner enjoy socialising at any other occasion? Would she be happy for you to go to any other kind of event? Honestly this sounds like social anxiety that's been left unchecked, but that's only because I've had friends behave similarly.

At this point it feels like you've known this friend long enough that they're practically family. You should go to the wedding.

They can still breathe through their mouths though.

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You know what hats going on, dude.

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Wtf? Dude is abusive, controlling, and a cheater himself. Quit possibly a groomer too if she was 19 when they got married.

> I don't have an emotional connection to him, I'm quite good at detaching if I don't see a future and separating casual from romantic

You sure about that? Things that work out but not often, or not completely have a way of captivating attention and increasing interest. Google intermittent reward to understand this more. Id bet it isn’t as much how he looks, as people get tired of almost anything if it becomes routine. It’s that he’s just barely out of reach, and that along with his good looks is what takes it from regular attraction, to the intensity you feel now.

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Yeah, in my opinion, you’ve got some issues to work on. You fundamentally don’t understand male sexuality, for one thing. And are insisting on setting yourself up in opposition to terabytes and terabytes of video content. And weirdly trying to make an ideological issue out of it when it has nothing material to do with your hangup here. Porn exists. Dudes watch it. The end.

This is an advice sub. I’ve offered you my perspective. Do with it what you will. If you feel taking a stand here is going to lead you to more happiness, let him know who’s boss. I wish you good luck.

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You don’t think I’m crazy? I was expecting doubt and break up messages bc of our age and all. I’m really surprised and honestly refreshed to hear this. I’ve never felt this way about someone. And I know the whole cliche and puppy love trope. The amount of times we should’ve broke up knowing we have ZERO strings attached and no obligation to, yet actively choosing to prevail is beyond love. Before I hear that’s toxic etc. we’re human beings who love each other and are honestly just trying to make it in this world together. Outside things usually what cause our tifs. I also know that my PTSD and trauma isn’t fair to either one of us. Often times people would rather just discard me and the relationship. I do believe this is special. Not only bc he treats me like a human being but bc of the passion and commitment to each other.

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It's fine for them to be friends and stay in contact. If you are still insecure ask your bf to organise it so you can meet his friend too. He might be hesitant worrrying you plan to be rude to his friend so you should assure it is just to help you get over your insecurity.