Then take him with you, if he’ll go. A professional will be able to help you communicate what’s going on in a constructive way and will be able to advise him on how to work with you.

Yeah I know I need help. I just feel like I don’t even want to talk to him when I get up in the morning. I feel sick. I don’t want to shame him but I feel like he doesn’t understand or cares to.

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The thought is of him "talking behind your back"... ??

How is this "behind your back"?

As in, do you expect him to not talk/message/interact with any girls ever?? Is this something he promised? Did you forbade him to do so before he went "behind your back" and talk to this girl? Was there some agreement between you two that neither of you are to talk/message the opposite sex?

My BF has female friends that I know and am sure he converses/messages with every now and then. I'm 100% sure he's not romantically interested in any of them.

I dunno why you have so little trust in your BF (perhaps new relationship, history of cheating, has betrayed your trust before or whatever).. but if I'm to assume he's done nothing previously to betray your trust, it appears you are insecure (thus have jealousy issues). I'd say there's nothing to talk to him about, it's more that you should reflect about yourself... then tell him about your insecurity/jealousy issues, and what he can do to help you not feel insecure/jealous.

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No, definitely not….he knows how to have sex….very well too :/ he didn’t have sex in highschool once he got out he had a bit of a hoe phase.

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Consider just telling him that your finances cannot support that rent. And that you are not yet ready to take the step of living with him full time. He will then do whatever he chooses. You have to live a life that works for you.

You need to talk to a professional. Honestly, that’s all I’m gonna say to this. If you want to save this relationship you need to work on yourself as well as work on the relationship.

1. Get therapy
2. Find a job that will pay bills
3. Continue to pursue streaming and content creation in your spare time

This all happened before you were together. If this is something you can't move past, I suggest you break up and work on yourself until you are in good enough working order to be in a relationship. People date and have sex with other people. If you can't handle that, you really have no business being in a relationship.

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As a very planned an intricate individual, I have kept that in mind, but it's funny because she has given me an unreal amount of self esteem via advice and by just existing. My parents don't understand how she gets me to smile so much by just existing in the room.

I don’t want to break up, I guess how can I not obsessing over the disgusting thought of him fucking some other bitch with him enjoying the friend watching. I almost hate him for it. FUCK. 😭😭😭😭 I can’t sleep now. The call ended badly. It’s 4am now!!!! Im FUCKED

Continued: He told me I don’t have anything to worry about and reassured me angrily and tried guilt tripping me to not being up his past. But I tell him bc it hurts me and I feel not enough. And that I need reassurance. And that I hate that he doesn’t regret it. I asked him that tonight, he said no. I wanted to die. He thinks I want this now. Truthfully yes and no. Would I actually do this- no, not at all. I’m extremely jealous, I wouldn’t risk losing him, i can barely have sex as it is, I love him, we have an amazing sex life. But I can’t get over that he had done that and has that experience, I feel insecure in my abilities. He brought up how I told him in my past I thought I was bi and how with one my one ex I was open to that shit, and it bothered him. Tbh, I think I wanted that bc my ex had a small penis….I feel fucked up saying that too.

He said he didn’t want to talk about it anymore and that I don’t trust him. I told him we have to talk about this now. We did and it continued with him saying what if the tables were reversed I’d have to deal with it and trust you. I said it’s easy for him to say that bc he had that experience and thought it was hot and consented to it. He was like yeah I consented to it, I thought it was fine. I said yeah it’s not a problem with consent it’s a problem that you liked it and didn’t question it or get up and leave or say something. Idk if he’s lying about how it all went down or what.

Yeah, I was jealous that he got to do that but REALLY realistically speaking- I don’t want that at all. I’d rather k!ll myself than thinking of doing that with him. Male or female with him, going thru an actually threesome.

The love we share is immense. But idk how to get over this. And before I get judged, first I’m extremely fragile rn, and two yes I know this is all fucked up and incredibly unattractive the way I feel, but being a survivor of sexual abuse and being unsure of my sexuality and than having my bf say he did something I wanted or thought I wanted and having the ability to have sex PERIOD. It’s incredibly frustrating and jealous and makes me insecure and I don’t feel enough. How am I suppose to trust he won’t want it or will cheat on me and do this. It’s so easy for him to have said “well you wanted those things” while THE FUCKER DID JUST THAT. It’s so unfair. I fucking hate this. I hate everything. Why couldn’t he say he atleast regretted it. No he doesn’t have to but Jesus Christ.

He just keeps saying it’s not a big deal, I told him it’s fucked up for him to say that and he should care about my feelings. To diminish how I feel. He continued to guilt trip about how “our relationship was going so well”

I’m angry and I’m hurt and pissed at what he said. I wanna pull my hair out. He told me to be straight up and tell him if I want those things to tell him bc we’ll break up bc he doesn’t what those things. I ofc would rather not, not ducking ever lose him to some other pair of titties or cock. But he doesn’t believe me now. I know deep down he doesn’t and deep down I don’t believe he doesn’t want another woman in the room. I wanna die. Idc if I’m being immature. I’m asking for help rn. I love this man so much. But I feel like a baby saying it’s unfair. And I don’t even want to have a threesome or be with anyone else.

He kept saying I don’t have anything to worry about but idk. Idk why I couldn’t stop crying and thinking of him having sex like that. Fuck- I can’t remove the thought in my brain. I wish he said he regretted it. All he kept saying it was before me and that he didn’t know me than.

Also keep in my mind what your lack of self esteem would do to a partner even if she agreed to be with you. It doesn't make for a healthy relationship.

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I have to pay my car, car insurance, health insurance, medical bills, phone plan, gas, etc.etc.

He lives in a 1bedroom apartment that is going to cost $1,400 divide that by 2 that is $700, on top of his HOA fee, electric bill, his electric bill can run around $120. And he has to pay for internet, so I can definitely say it will be close or to $1,000.

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I've already aligned myself being in my last semester of my first year of college and being in the air force I couldn't be more aligned and set on a straight path I'm just trying to aquire my crush along the way, and thank you once again.

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