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It seems like you are sexually incompatible

Most definitely, I try my absolute best to keep positive thoughts and energy. I do not enjoy strife by any means, best put, sex to me, seems like a means to an end.

YTA. Break up, she can do better.

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My initial thought was whether she stole them from a client's home. In her line of work you are trusted with someone else's home and possessions.

You don’t say that you used your adult words to explain it was supposed to be a surprise or you communicated anything! Weird that but on the off chance how did you explain it away!

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Don't make it an option.

Like you said, have a plan. Have family there to help you move. Friends. An Uber driver. Police if need be.

Sex is the question you bring at the forefront but it seems to be the smallest of problems you have going on.

Thank you, I will have to make a strategic exit strategy. I have tried ending it like a civil person before, but that blew up in my face worse than any sane person would fathom.

End it. move on. find someone better.

she refuses to get help and refuses to work with you.

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I don't know about the other stuff but I find it strange you're fixating on what sounds like a black bra and panties. I wouldn't call that lingerie even if it was lacey.

Regardless of everything, it sounds like you no longer have any trust in your relationship. Cheating or not, you have a problem.

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Don’t walk, run! If he was a good man you’d never have met him.

It sounds like you spent a long time typing: my bf is a broke ass who doesn’t pull his own weight and blames me for his failure. Just dump the looser.

Well I can parse out the fact that you're indulging a very damaged man who should not be in a relationship with anyone. Stop doing that. He is not worthy of your time and attention.

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:( im not a bot, nor was I meaning to offend. I'm suggesting that my communication isn't good right now

Honestly you're right. Just gotta brush it off, it's simply q good learning experience for me 😋

Oh well who cares. If he’s the type to take another girls side in the argument it prob wouldn’t have lasted anyways.