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Reply to My (23f) boyfriend (23m) and his friend (23f) by Cait_2000

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tushitouuu OP t1_j6kf55w wrote

Reply to comment by Malibucat48 in 19F and 44M by tushitouuu

yes a booty call exactly, and I think I’m just gonna tell him that personally it doesn’t work out for me and it’s not something that I want right now I can’t really hold him accountable for something because he never told me that we were anything so I just kind of got ahead of myself lol

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Malibucat48 t1_j6kerui wrote

Reply to 19F and 44M by tushitouuu

It’s called a booty call. You go to his place for sex only and leave. It’s not even friends with benefits because he doesn’t see you as a friend. So, yes, you are being used by a man old enough to be your father. You are worth more than that. And if you want a FWB, get a hot young guy. And he wants a 19 year old to be mature? Come on, if you were mature you wouldn’t be with this POS.

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SCA_CH t1_j6kbjqm wrote

Reply to I [30M] found lingerie I’ve never seen before in my wife’s [24F] work bag. by [deleted]

I think I remember your post from before.

Doesn’t your SIL believe your wife is also being inappropriate with the neighbour of your wife’s client? Hasn’t she been sending him pictures of herself in the lingerie?

If so, putting all this together, it does sound like your wife is having an inappropriate relationship with this man.

I personally do not bring lingerie to work to try on, especially if I worked in home aid.

Sorry!

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Sufficient_Natural_7 t1_j6kan94 wrote

Reply to comment by tushitouuu in 19F and 44M by tushitouuu

Not sure where to begin, from your inexperience to the power dynamic he has. Most likely love bombing and other forms of manipulation, and for some reason he’s complaining a teenager (you) is acting like a teenager.

With age gaps there’s always a general rule; there’s a reason they go for younger and that’s because people their own age won’t deal/accept the bs they’re putting them through. People their age see through their bs.

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pspisy t1_j6k9i58 wrote

Reply to 19F and 44M by tushitouuu

>It feels like he just sees me as a dumb 19 year old that he can fuck and he is not interested in anything that I have to say.

...yes. Absolutely, yes.

You're not dumb, you're just young and inexperienced. He took you out enough times for you to think he's a gentleman, but in reality, he's a pathetic old man and women his age won't entertain his bullshit so he goes for younger women who tend to be more permissive of this type of shit behavior.

Unless he's gonna buy you a car or something just leave.

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Alarmed-Size3129 t1_j6k9hyx wrote

Reply to comment by tushitouuu in 19F and 44M by tushitouuu

You are a 19 year old who doesn't know that him treating you like shit is something you're allowed to say no to. He picked you not because he thinks you're special (which you are!) but because he knows you won't stand up because you don't have the experience to tell that something is deeply, deeply off about all of this. Ditch the creep

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