What do you meant, “let her go”. She’s already gone. If you’re really horny, watch some porn or some shit. Anyone with any semblance of common sense would struggle to believe someone in a relationship felt horny so they downloaded a dating app…with no intention of actually talking to anyone.

Less karma more cause and effect but understood

Im not trying to explain anything away, i know what ive done and that it will more likely then not cost me someone i care about, just trying to give you the whole picture, obviously the bad is going to be remembered 99% of the time compared to the good but you cant tell me i dont care about her without witnessing the other 15 months of our relationship

You let her go. You messed up and intended to cheat in some way, even if you didn't get to do it. You got back together but she realized she couldn't trust you the same way she did before, and you telling her you've been nothing but faithful wouldn't change anything.

Let her be happy. You had your chance but the ship has sailed. Hopefully, you'll learn a lesson with all of this.

I never thought of it that way, that I could feel threatened. I know for a fact they sleep with each other, so it's not a platonic friendship.

Maybe I don't want an open relationship, but I can see myself having sides, too. That's just hypocritical of me.

if you wanted to be the one that cares for her, you should have cared enough not to be disloyal. that’s the bare minimum and you couldn’t even do that. if you care about her at all let her go find the one that won’t give her nightmares

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Karma works in mysterious ways

Be better but do it so you don’t fuck yo again. Don’t do it to win her back because it ain’t gonna work

The problem is that you think you can explain away your actions. If you can even consider doing this behind someone's back, you do not respect that person. You lack empathy and accountability. Take a good hard look at yourself.

pornography has been an immense struggle for me my entire life, i had never been confronted about it in any previous relationship until now. And even less had a desire at actually look at myself and reflect on how to be better for someone i care about. Maybe i dont know what love is but what i share with her is definitely more then attachment and at that level isnt it worth trying to be better

Not trying to be disingenuous at all, you’re also implying nobody did ask to hookup. Im posted on this forum not for people to tell me to get back together with her but to get a sense of how she is feeling/thinking

You didn't love her and you can not say you "genuinely care about her" after actively making choices that would hurt her. Love is a deep level of care and immense respect. You are attached to her maybe, but you obviously have no idea what love is.

Leave her alone, stay single until you can offer someone the kind of love that you KNOW they deserve.

Let her go. She’s tried to trust you and forgive you but has quite sensibly decided she can’t.

Don’t be so disingenuous. People don’t download dating apps because they are “bored and horny”. They speak to their partner like an adult about their sexual and emotional life. Or they have a wank.

You can dissemble all you want, but if a girl had asked for a hookup you would have eventually responded.

I never denied fucking up, i never accepted any nudes either, i had mentality associated a dating app in the same category as pornography.

Because personal relationships can and do with many people have underlying sexual tension. And most people know this.

There is also always a chance that one of these sides for eaither of you ends up being a better fit then you or her.

So that makes your rightfully feel threatened.

Having platonic friendships are not "sides" with clear boundaries.

It sounds like she wants an open relationship. And you do not.

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downloading the app is cheating, accepting nude is accepting. if she your love of your life then you wouldn’t of done that jfc. you fucked up.

You were actively looking to break trust and respect in your relationship.

You guys talked about it and tried to move on. It didn’t work. She left. Nothing but blame on you

extactly. you was going cheat on her

I never wouldve met anyone, most likely would’ve accepted nudes so your point is still valid

So you tried to hookup and got caught. This breakup was deserved.

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