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Reply to I feel like I (F 35) was manipulated by this man (M 47) for over a year, and now I’m his back up plan by [deleted]

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Oohkbutnotokay t1_j6fowha wrote

Reply to I(m22) don't want her(f20) out of my life but she cheated thrice by Much-Butterfly647

You get the love you accept. If this is what you want… knock yourself out. At this point she has shown you she is a wreck and you keep choosing to be the crash test dummy that gives the boyfriend experience.

It will not stop. Merely go through periods you cannot see conclusively it is happening. If you dont respect yourself, not sure why you expect her to.

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gonnagetcancelled t1_j6fmq8u wrote

Reply to I(m22) don't want her(f20) out of my life but she cheated thrice by Much-Butterfly647

You know how it felt when you found out? Get used to that feeling.

There's zero chance she stops this behavior. And at this point you know this already, so your choices are: The pain of a breakup which will suck but eventually be over. Or the recurring pain of being cheated on until you're eventually cast aside...which gives you extra pain and then you get to go though the first option anyhow.

I'm sorry to put it so bluntly, but if someone had done that with me when I was about your age it would have saved me an incredible amount of heartache and the time it took to unwind some unhealthy defensive behaviors I developed.

I know working it out is viable for some people. I've never seen it work though. I'm 100% against any form of cheating and 100% against staying after such a thing has happened. I'm almost twice your age and have seen it with friends, experienced it, watched it happen publicly...the 1% chance that things will get better will not happen for you. rip the bandaid off. Deal with the suck. Find someone worth your time.

Good luck.

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Reply to I(m22) don't want her(f20) out of my life but she cheated thrice by Much-Butterfly647

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