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He’s putting lives in danger and if you stay you’re in danger as well. He likes this, his rage feels powerful and satisfyingly him. Now imagine leaving the hospital with your new born baby and someone cuts him off.

You can’t change him, but you can leave him or refuse to ever get in a car he’s driving again. There is no other choice and no magical thinking will change your circumstances.

I don’t think you should see her. You’ve already gotten this far in the healing process, why risk restarting the clock at zero? Move forward with strength and the openness for new love!!

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Hmmm That could be true but I don’t have problems when she uses her mouth or other parts of her body to get me off only sex

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I definitely get more attention from my partner when I dress up. I like it that way. But he’s never shy to tell me I’m cute, beautiful, sexy etc. when I’m not dressed up. So I can understand your point of view.

I think you should talk with your boyfriend about how that makes you feel. Let him know you enjoy the words of affirmation and you want him to do it more often (when you’re simply your regular self).

If he can’t or if he feels you’re not “beautiful enough” without all the pizazz.. it’s up to you where to go from there. Personally I would feel they’re not attracted to me and I would probably leave.

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The condoms you’re using are too small.

Don't get in the car with him anymore. How many times are you going to let him risk your life? If you ever have kids, would you ever allow your kids to be in the car while he's driving? Break up with him. He's endangering everyone who's driving as well.

Don't date people who are mean to you.

You can't fix him. You can't change him. There are no magic words to "get through to him."

He knows what he's doing.

I advise if you’re having trouble finishing during sex that you cease all self pleasure. There’s something called “death grip” and it’s difficult one to overcome.

Basically the penis prefers the hand to the real thing.

That seems obvious. I’m wondering if there’s any better ways to do it without risking too much disappointment.

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Yes it proved he wasn't joking as he went to the effort of arrangements. Proof if you will.

This is why guys call it "fakeup." This is why I always take dates out to do something that doesn't involve a lot of makeup. Maybe a bicycle ride on a warm day, swimming, hiking, etc. At the end of the day I need to know what I'm going to be waking up next to.

It wouldn't be over a walk. It would be over his behavior. He was unkind and rude.

If this is the first time he's ever done something like this, it's worth talking to him about, after he's had a chance to cool off from whatever was bugging him that day. "I felt very hurt and confused by your behavior on that walk. Can you explain to me what was going on? I'd like to understand and I'd like for us to talk about how we can avoid similar situations in the future"

If he's rude and snippy frequently, and it is something you can't accept and he won't change, now is probably a good time to cut your losses and move on.

Mind you, it's possible that he has grown tired of maintaining the courtship behavior that attracted you to him, and is starting to revert to his normal self as infatuation fades and real life sets in. If you start to see this behavior more frequently, that is probably what is happening. The real him is showing up.

Hugs from a rando little old lady who wants to see you live your best life.

He could get himself killed pissing off the wrong driver. I’ve seen news stories of people just pulling out a gun and firing at other cars.

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If he didn't say he likes you better with makeup, that's something you're coming up with internally. Everyone looks better with makeup, you're not alone in that. Unless you get cosmetic surgery, fillers, botox, eyelash extensions, microbladed brows, etc you aren't going to just wake up looking amazing. And that's totally okay! I look exhausted without makeup.

It sounds as though you just would appreciate him being sweet with you even if you aren't all made up. Just talk to him about it and let him know you're feeling insecure. Unless you're dating an asshole, it's likely he didn't think about it and will try to make more of an effort if you tell him how you feel.

My brother pays the rent but I do all the upkeeping, such as cleaning, making dinner, laundry, etc. and I pay for my own car and gas and such, so yeah you’re right that seems like a roommate scenario

Thanks for commenting :) Honestly me and her do semi long distance. We are both in college about 4 hours away we see each other for a weekend every 2 weeks. I have a high sex drive so I can't really go more then 2 days without relief. I do not watch porn as she helps me over the phone with talk and visual help. She has been a great help and understands my needs.

What about individual counseling for you? Marriage counselors will generally try to save the marriage, even if it's not worth saving. A counselor for you may help you see that you deserve better.