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Have you been paying rent and living expenses and do adult routine stuff like your laundry? If so, sounds like a roommate situation.

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Thank you, it sucks to read but I already had this feeling and I guess I just needed some reality checks

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I didn’t clearly specify but I currently have been staying with my brother for over a year, but I still kind of classify as it living with parents because it’s still technically family I guess, and my mom visits quite frequently.

If you continue assuming every girl will cheat on you, you will never give anyone a chance and become bitter. Work on your feelings and insecurities first so you have a chance at a healthy relationship in the future

He can do it by himself then let you know whether or not he was comfortable though. If he is working on himself, it's not going to be comfortable and it probably won't be more comfortable with you there since you told him he needed to open up for the relationship to survive.

I assumed she went along with it because he has been actively gaslighting her about how important this is to him. It’s just joking, he’s not serious comments while the frequency of them increases and the context of when and where they happen. So while she took him at his word he lied to her but she had a gut feeling it’s more than a joke. So she pretended to be ok just to see the real him. That’s my interpretation. Op can correct me if I am wrong.

What do your porn/masturbation habits look like? Honestly.

Depends on your relationship dynamic and love language.

I don’t make unsolicited comments on my partner’s physical appearance ordinarily and would honestly be weirded out if he called me pretty everyday.

If we’re all done up for a special event or got a new haircut or something, then it makes sense to make a comment about how he looks handsome in that suit or how I’m beautiful with that shade of lipstick, new hairstyle, etc.

If consistent words of affirmation (including verbal compliments) is your love language then you should communicate that with your partner and they should put some effort to accommodate, or find a partner who also speaks that love language naturally.

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Yes! This all the way.

Give her space.

Leave.

Thank you so much for the heads up and I will check out that subreddit. Those 3 descriptions sound accurate because his brother is the type that never bought the BS, whereas he is the one that takes it to heart.

I think that no romantic partners should live together until they have lived on their own (including with roommates) for at least a year.

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Oh girl.

Throw this one back.

I mean, I guess you have a slim chance. I’m being really serious here. If he’s offended by telling the truth about his mother, it’s not a good sign.

For your own self, if you haven’t already, I’m repeating the advice to read r/justnoMIL.

Read a lot of stories there, sort by best, and read the histories of people with lots of posts.

JustnoMILs are shockingly alike. And their sons have very few variations - there are basically three types: the ones who never bought their moms bs, the ones who bought it until they grew up and realized that mom’s not as right as she thinks, and the biggest group is the ones who never break free of that storyline.

Unfortunately, it seems that if bf doesn’t break free of her web early on, it gets less and less likely to happen with any meaningful changes.

Im really serous that you need to protect yourself from her, and if he won’t do it now, he might never do it. But don’t take my word for it, read justnomil for literally hundreds and hundreds of stories that start out exactly like yours.

Good luck, internet stranger. You have some choices to make, and a lot of hard honesty with yourself coming in. Do not get pregnant with this man unless he likely and vocally sides with you. Do not accept anything less, and do not subject children to the mess she will create with them.

Go. Read. Be careful.

Trust your instincts. I suspect that they are very good.

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Nah, I think you thinking that this will be a problem for your daughter is a bit of an overreaction. At 5 years old it’s all about how you present it. I would not make her wanting to do this a conflict!

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This does help though because you need to start preparing to be a single mum so you're not blindsided in 6 months.

Not to check on him, just to make him more comfortable and not alone. It may make him feel better/more comfortable if we are working on the relationship together vs just him getting therapy by himself. He has a super hard time with being vulnerable and I don’t want him to feel pressured by me telling him he needs to go to therapy.