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Don't pretend to be a victim. You were a willing participant, not sure how you expected this to end.

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That's deep, man, you're right in that regardless of where he's really coming from with his part of the 'discussion,' it's ultimately a pitfall which leads to settling even being an option. It's true, I can't be a doormat

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If this isn’t a troll post, then I’m not sure what you’re looking for. You f’d around and found out. Tons of couples get past infidelity. It takes work, but it’s not impossible. You have zero grounds to be upset or bitter about that when you knowingly were the other woman from the start.

Your friend needs to tell her point blank they do a paternity test or he ignores her and blocks her. If she knows he's the dad, she'll readily agree. Any excuses on her part is almost a 100% certainty he's not the dad. She's playing games and he needs to shut that down.

If you’ve run out of things to talk about and spending time together is painful after five months, it sounds like the relationship isn’t going to work. You two might just not have enough chemistry, which is okay.

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I know how you're feeling here, and I have felt this way in the past. But...if I'm judging from your post alone, this is not what he's indicating. This is anxiety and insecurity and filling in the blanks in your mind. That's not a criticism of you. We all do it to some extent. We guess what people might be thinking or saying, and our minds come up with hurtful answers to those situations.

I have been with my partner for about 15 years now, but I remember lots of tears of assumptions I made like this. I would even frame it that way to him in an accusatory way. I was young. I was insecure a lot. We were new. Etc. Etc. Happens to the best of us. We met when we were 16. Haha. But my point is that over time and growth in the relationship, I realized the best method really was for me to say: Hey, when X happened, this is what went through my mind. Can you help me understand if this is true?

Overall, it sounds like he thinks you're beautiful, but overthinking really gets the best of us sometimes.

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Cat fish him on reddit, set up a 'meet up', show up to the date and have him explain himself.

Also, dont forget to save all the screenshots before you do any of this

Go with your friend.

I'm sorry to say, I think you likely have been catfished. Either that or he's got cold feet, possibly because he isn't exactly who he's made himself out to be. Even facetime and seeing his social media isn't adequate to fully know a person.

Forget this dude. If he wanted to, he would.

Give yourself a fantastic vacation. Have fun with your friend. Pack in a bunch of awesome activities and make sure you go home with good memories.