Hell no, not worth it. Honestly people joke abt Reddit saying break up over nothing but like. Y’all haven’t been together that long, you aren’t married, and you don’t have kids. Trustworthiness CAN be developed, but that’s the key word there. Do you want to find out after a decade plus a couple kids that he hasn’t actually become trust worthy?

You are young and there are good partners out there that don’t do this.

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You kinda just stuck it sounds like. I agree with his parent’s reasoning and obviously your thinking is short sighted BUT at a certain point you value personal space and growth more than saving money.

Their argument makes total sense on paper but living in a van is cheaper than my rent im not going to do that either.

Ultimately its his call obviously and if he doesn’t mind living at home where food and rent are free and life is easy while banking a bunch of money i cant really blame him.

If its a line in the sand then draw it and give an ultimatum but his parents are not going to like you from that point on if you stay together bc its not his choice its yours.

Unfortunately, it seems you are more willing to make excuses for his behavior/actions than you are willing to understand/accept how toxic this man is to your life and future…

So I will ask you this instead: do you want a PARTNER or a dependent friend that fails to make any contribution to you, your efforts, the household, the relationship, or the overall well-being/livelihood expected of another…

YES, agreed… he needs help: but that starts with him helping himself (first)… and you don’t have the proper training, disciplines, or relationship to communicate what is needed (he already has you cornered, you are spoon feeding this existence for him)…

BUT: you came here for advice and reassure… maybe you were expecting a pat on the back instead?

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Going to therapy 5 times won’t do shit lol. I think you should look at how you’ve overcame things in the past. Like actual hard things. Reads like you’re a big baby who doesn’t know how to self parent.

>The title of the post is “my bf likes me better with makeup.”

If all you read was the post title, that makes your advice to "throw the whole man out" even worse

Completely agree with you. Sometimes wish I could reach through my screen and shake the OP!!

Sounds to me like he actually wants her and not you. You’re there to keep him occupied until I guess he can figure out how to get her instead. At which point you become expendable.

He is a creep. Grown ass man dating a teenager. He's trying to groom you. Everyone here is telling you the truth but, you're refusing to listen. You need to run.

Jesus fucking Christ! Another one!!! Stop dating dudes that are a decade or worst, more than a decade, older than you! It’s not appropriate!!! Whoever will see it, it’s not appropriate for a grown ass man OR woman to date someone who’s just a couple of years ago is still a fucking KID!

“I would totally judge you if you were gay” “Yeah I would disown you if you were gay” “Woah, that’s super homophobic…” “Yup! Everyone in this family is.”

I didn’t really know what to say after that.

Then you're going to be miserable. There is no third option. He's not going to magically change.

No they do not. That's a lie perpetuated by crap men.

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I'd try to meet up with her anyway. Seems like she'll have some interesting things to tell you about him if he's so desperate to keep you away from her.

Yea, it’s not necessarily about the walk itself. But how he’s going to handle you bringing up the situation. Does he seem to listen? Like really listen? Take account of your feelings and apologize and say to work on it or have a conversation to come to an understanding? If so then that’s good. If he’s dismissive and short, or tells you you’re “overreacting” or being “dramatic” HUGE red flag and dump his ass. Partners need to be able to bring up their feelings with one another, no matter the context. If he dismisses that then he’s not worth your time.

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This isn’t real. Common peeps, don’t waste your time.

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