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Better yet, go to college and ghost him. No 30-year-old man has ANY reason to be dating a teenager. He just wants a babysitter, and the fact that he probably gets to sleep with you is an added (ick) bonus for him. Go to college, do some growing up, get some therapy, and find a healthy relationship.

Well especially with more info it seems like OP gets the sahm struggles and is doing what he can to give her alone time, but she’s saying it’s not enough while also not reciprocating at all. The whole one persons need is another want and hard to determine a baseline of which is more important without knowing what we’re talking about.

I just wasn’t sure whether her needs were just 30 minutes alone to talk to a friend vs his need to be in the garage for half a day - which in that case the needs aren’t equal. But it seems like it’s the reverse - she’s getting a higher level of needs accommodated than him. Asking for a 5th candy bar stating she needs it when he’s just asking for one candy bar.

Uh, because in their hearts they don’t respect or value my sister, as a human being… This is upsetting… and would be more than upsetting to my sister if she found out.

ok.. that comment might have been slightly rude... but seriously though!

It pisses me off when people have perfectly good lives and potential futures and just toss them away for no reason.. like. How many people have fought to get away from oppression, then you have these people who are just lining up to be fitted for their shackles...

Like. We have so much in the world to fix... what if this girl has some untapped brilliance for cancer research, water purification, warp engine design, botany, I don't know, and we never find out because she never goes to college and this stupid guy just squashed our chances to have whatever she was going to come up with. I just want to shake these people like, Stop ruining our chances for cool people, dammit!

ok. I'll stop now. lol 😬

Girl i am not even going to go into the age gap because I am sure people already dragged you for it.

Lets talk about the employee-employer relationship. If you were working at any other place, say you're working at a McDonald's and your boss says that -would you skip on college for this? Do you see how insane that sounds?

Your education is probably the most important thing in your life. It will change your thinking and worldview, help your career, help you make a difference in the world. Worst case scenario if the worse things happen you can atleast use your education to earn a living and buy yourself food.

Someone who tells you to neglect your education so you can go do your job - a job that btw doesn't have a lot of growth potential because where do you go from babysitting? Thr ceo of babysitting club? - this person does not have your best interest at heart.

Its when compa I want you to come in despite you being sick, the weather, family emergency etc. You do realize in those case the company doesn't actually care about the emploand only about the work being done? That's exactly your bf - all he cares about is that someone is there to take care of his kid - he doesn't care about your life or your development.

I truly hope you wont permanently screw up your future for a guy you're seeing and make good decisions.

(Btw please tell me he is still paying you as a babysitter and you're not doing it for free because youre his gf because GOOD LAWD that would be bad)

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I see, I think I'm just afraid of wasting time on someone that could be cheating the whole time. I'll definitely try and just calm down about it though and see where it takes me! Thanks for the advice!

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You're right and it absolutely sucks that they don't. That is a wound I don't think will ever actually heal.

I'm OK with it now. I'm pretty happy. But I'm still going through therapy so sometimes I will uncover traumatic shit they did to me and the wound comes open again. And I'll hate them and cry and be depressed and wonder what I did wrong. Why couldn't they just love me?

The fault isn't with me. It's with them. They're incapable of being anything other than abusive and toxic. I don't need that in my life. No one does.

If we truly want happiness and peace, we can't have people like this in our lives. Even if they're our parents.

That’s a long time for sure! But you’re a different person than you were at 15. It might be nice to branch out and grow with someone else now.

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Your boyfriend is not the issue. You are. That girl hasn't done anything to justify these thoughts and your boyfriend certainly hasn't done anything to warrant being told that you do not trust him.

You need to continue therapy and probably need to be single until you learn how to manage your emotions and your control issues. You can not control people.

>sometimes I’m worried that he’ll actually start liking them and leave me for something he likes better (which I think is fine but I would just want him to tell me asap and not hide it and feel guilty or something and keep dating me because he feels bad for me).

This part right here is disordered thinking. If a person actually ever does cheat on you, you need to have enough self worth to walk away. Saying that your main concern is that they would keep dating you, because they feel bad for you is messed up. Find your self respect and love yourself enough to know how to handle yourself and be secure within yourself.

Your worth does not come from a man or a relationship.

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It’s really not “from” full metal jacket. It’s a line associated with sex workers during the Vietnam War. Full Metal Jacket (and rap) pushed it into the pop culture of the time. I’d like to believe she didn’t know but 1. it’s said in a disparaging Asian-American accent. 2. I refuse to accept “not knowing’. Racists say stupid antiquated crap all the time.

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Btw, I agree it has alot to do with the nerves that goes into the situation, performance anxiety.

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What did she say when you told her how you feel?