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[deleted] t1_j2fib58 wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in [19F][34M] My boyfriend wants me to focus on taking care of his daughter. by throwra7272727262

This is grooming. He took advantage of your vulnerability to position himself as the only person you can trust, which is then leveraged into control.

Go to school. If he freaks out about it, that should indicate to you that he doesn’t want you to improve yourself or be independent, he just wants you trapped at home taking care of him and his child.

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Complete-Lettuce-941 OP t1_j2fi0ih wrote

Reply to comment by lynxtosg03 in [50F][27F] I’m (50F) half Chinese and my niece (27F) is white. She made a racist Asian comment on a professional phone call right in front of me and hasn’t properly apologized or contacted me (very unusual) How do I talk to her about this in a constructive way? by Complete-Lettuce-941

Thank you, I agree that she is embarrassed and I do want to give her some room. I appreciate the advice on spending time with her and being there for her and it makes sense because this isn’t about punishment (ok the inheritance part is but I can’t let her have the assets my immigrant grandparents left for me). Again, Thank you.

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