Up to you.. Personally at 7 months in, I'd want to have a conversation about it to find out whether he's willing to actually listen to and understand your feelings and to communicate his own. If he's not, I'd consider that a big red flag.

Tell him what you need. Tell him you're done if you don't see any effort. Stick to your word.

Take my downvote!

My dude, it happens.

You're not alone and it's usually an issue of anxiety and nerves.

You can talk to a medical doctor, you can take to a sex therapist, read up about sex performance.

The main thing I'd advise: be patient and present. Listen to your body, don't get too stuck in your own head. Have fun and enjoy intimacy, and maybe even just take PIV off the table for a while. This can help relieve the pressure you put on yourself.

Alcohol and cigarettes make it worse, so the usual: mind your diet, sleep and exercise.

Consider laying off masturbating as you sort this out. Sex drive does build over time and masturbating can reset that drive as well

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Do I forget about it? Or should I figure out what was going on?

Sorry… are you his employee still? Or have you “upgraded” to partner officially? The age difference considering your ages is gross. He hired you to look after his kid. That is his end game here. Believing anything else is foolish at best. Go to college. Jeez.

Should I bring it up again with him and ask? Or drop it and forget it

Something was obviously bothering him then, he was lying when he said he was fine.

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Probably the best case scenario here is that he was actually upset about something else and took it out on you. Because if that's not the case, then he was just being an ass for no reason.

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>Throw the whole man out

That's bad advice with the limited context she's given.

You may be reading way more into it as all she's said is he went wild when she dolled up.

Good on you your BF fawns over you 24/7/365 - but not all guys are gonna do that.

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Don't ask questions you don't want to know the answers to. Rude? You think I'm being rude? Honest. It's called reality. You may want to try it "Throwaway" You can't even use your actual account.

A dude is telling you to NOT GO TO SCHOOL so you can be a babysitter to his kid... Just listen to yourself.

The fact that you're even considering this is an insult to our entire gender. It's an insult to intelligent human beings everywhere.

Rude? Oh no. This isn't rude. What he suggested was rude. His whole plan for you is rude. The fact that you're annoyed with me and not him, is the reason there are men willing to even suggest this bullshit.

Rude? Oh no. This is a kindness. I bothered to tell you the truth. Come back in 20 years and read this again. Then tell me how rude you think I've been.

I did think about that, but we just had a baby. I don’t want to do something impulsive like that and destroy our relationship if it’s not actually him or if he isn’t really having an affair. I want to talk to him and learn the truth before initiating a divorce. If I knew for sure that he had cheated, I would start divorce proceedings immediately.

Not really no. He seemed a bit off in the car before, but when I asked he said he was good and fine

>>I’m just wondering if there are any other ways to go about this.

You’re asking if there’s any way to avoid the consequences of being a total piece of shit, and the answer is no.

Hiding this will absolutely blow up in your face. If you want any sort of chance with your current girlfriend, you are going to have to tell her. And you’re going to have to watch it completely destroy her. And you’re going to have to do anything she needs you to in order to help her heal, even if it means leaving her.

If she does decide to allow you to try to make it up to her, just know that the person she sees you as will be completely altered. How she feels about you, how she feels about herself, how she feels about intimacy, how she feels about the relationship, her trust in you, her love for you, her patience and understanding with you, will all be changed.

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You cannot convince him, his daughter is his responsibility. If he loved you he would want you to go to college

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Hey man, thank you so much for sharing your input!

Yup. I’m in my mid-30’s now and the thought of a relationship with a 19 year old is cringy.

Start beating off with condoms on to get used to the reduced sensation. Happens to all of us, nothing to be ashamed of.

Other than that just put lube on before putting on the condom. Helps with the sensation.