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Was he in a hurry to get somewhere...? Why did he feel the need to walk ahead of you? Definitely seems rude to me.

Good God this guy is a grub. Leave him and go to college, do not drastically alter the course of your life for some guy nearly twice your age that's obviously using you for childcare and sex.

Also, hes fucking outsourcing the childcare when he has custody? Gross.

Does it matter? She dumped you - whatever her reasoning, it's over. Move on. Any repeated attempts to reconnect is gonna seem stalkerish. Sometimes there just isn't closure, and you have to live with it.

I got a 2nd last name when I was 4 (divorce). It wasn't a problem for me, aside from having to cram 26 characters onto one piece of paper when writing the whole thing out, lol.

He does enough to fool you into thinking this is a good relationship.

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Is this is truely what you want the rest of your life to look like? You have a snapshot right here in front of you. He won’t change. He won’t. But you can. And by you changin I mean your situation.

You don’t have to tolerate spending your life with someone who clearly does not see you as equal.

I would highly advise continuing therapy. And just tell them exactly how you said here, that you have a tendency to avoid (and why) and they might be able to help you through THAT too

Therapy can be really helpful

But sometimes it feels like it hurts as much as it helps

Think of it like taking stitches out. It hurts a bit, but it’s sooooo much better than leaving it in

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I'll be sitting down with him tonight.

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Youre his placeholder till she warms to the idea of a relationship.... u need to cut your losses and exit.

He may be a good person. He doesn’t sound like a very good boyfriend, sadly. And that’s putting it nicely.

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"I'm just wondering if there are any other ways of going about this"

You mean the magic way that makes your ex have a miscarriage and keeps your girlfriend from finding out?

Are you really being serious now?

Your dick didn't accidentally end up inside your ex after you slipped on a banana peel. You had sexual conversations with her and then got in your car and went to see her. Oh, and you somehow forgot to mention to your ex that you have a girlfriend.

You're 35. Be a grown up and tell your current girlfriend that you betrayed her and let her dump you.

Then you need to stop dating while you get some therapy and focus on being a dad. You need to expect more from yourself, especially at your age. Cause right now, you are an embarrassment.

Sounds like you already know the answer. Trust your intuition with it.

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So, if your ex hadn’t gotten pregnant you would have continued on with your current gf like nothing happened, correct? You would continue lying to her.

Tell your gf the truth and then walk away. If she is as great as you say, then she will have no problem finding someone else who will treat her with the love and respect she deserves.

This whole post is about you saving your butt because you got caught. It’s not about you messing up, taking accountability, and trying to fix things.

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Why would you ever agree to this? He is literally, and very clearly, telling you that your future is not important. Why would you agree to be with someone who doesn't think you're important?

You teach people how to treat you. If you've decided that your life isn't worth as much as his, then there's nothing anyone can say or do to help you. You have to decide that you're life is valuable and worth as much as anyone else's.

We can type "Dump this guy, go to college" until our fingers fall off. You're the one who has to live in your head and experience the consequences of your choices. If you are going to let this person designate his plans and his kid as more valuable than you're plans for your life, that's your choice to make. Personally, I think that's insane.

But, if I tell you what to do with your life, then I'm just doing the same thing he is.

You need to stop asking other people what to do with yourself and decide for yourself how much value your life has and if you're willing to fight for it.

Or maybe that's too much effort. Maybe it's just easier to let someone else tell you who you are and what to do with yourself. In that case, just forget about college and be his nanny until his daughter grows up and moves out. He totally sounds like the kind of guy to stay faithful and grateful to you for all your years of service. He totally won't hang you out to dry at 40 with no education, no job history and no money.

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I am laughing at you. This is bullshit. “filled with guilt”. 🤮🤮🤮. You are full of shit is what you are.full of. You are a cheater and now you are caught!! I hope your girlfriend never talks to your cheater ass again. You wanted to get off and have fun so you fooled around with your ex and now not only will you pay for at least 18 years but that poor child will pay to have 2 parents that act like kids. “i find myself in a horrible predicament “ Yes, one of your own making because you couldn’t keep your dick in your pants and be a faithful man. You are a pitiful excuse for a man. No one feels sorry for you !! Karma !!