Surprisingly no. He lived on his own for a little but before I moved out of my first apartment. I'm unsure if I said it in the post but he used to be great about us cleaning. I do agree that he does need to buck up.

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You should break up with both of them and stop dating until you grow up and learn to think of others before yourself.

You need to be honest with both of them. Running away without telling them the real reason would be cowardly on top of your utterly shite behaviour so far.

Taking responsibility and owning your actions will be the start of your journey from cunt to human.

Good point. We did recently buy a month white board with a notes section. I'll have to bring this up with him, it's not the first thing I would've wanted to do but I'm afraid I'm at this point. Thank you.

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You're not his mother and you're not his maid. Its entirely justified that you expect your partner to contribute equally around the house. Thats basically all that needs saying.

From my perspective you are making a mistake by focusing on his gaming and implying that his "unwinding time" is a problem in itself. He will use that against you in any argument. The fact is that he isn't holding up his end of household responsibilities, and the reasons for that are largely irrelevant. Stay focused on the crux of the matter.

Then stop. I know it will drive you crazy but ONLY clean up after yourself. Let him sit in his own filth and if he NEVER shows any motivation to not live like that? Just pack your shit and leave him in his own filth.

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I have a part time job struggling to find a full time job. I make a high pay an hour at my current job that I won’t make any where else. My current job won’t hire me full time.

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I mean, he’s more attracted to you when you put on make up and get dressed up. You could definitely bring this up as talk about him physically expressing himself more with you when your out of make up but… I think he’d just tell you that you’re prettier with it on then not.

Flip side; he could’ve saw the effort you put into your appearance and wanted to give appreciation and affection. And maybe saying you’d like that reaction in regards to other features of your life (whether it’s career success, a goal was reached in you hobby, idk you made an amazing spaghetti sauce) to show that appreciation for rather than solely focusing on your physical appearance.

Bottom line; talk to him and tell him you want more of that for him, or at least it not centering around when your make up is done.

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You're gonna get your balls cut off 😂

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I've brought it up with his mother and she said that often times she would turn his PC off because he wouldn't do what he was asked to. I've done it once before and it got results for a bit but I don't want to have to do that. I just want him to understand that he needs to help out.

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I do not deal with that plans cancelling stuff a lot of times. Especially if there is no reason like an emergency or accident but the person just rather wants to spend time with someone else. I also will not argue like crazy if this happens to often, I will just stop making plans with these people or make plans that are not unconvenient to me if they are cancelled (like close where I live, have a Plan B for the day, not much planning needed, etc.). People are growing apart and that is just as it is when you get older.

Did he move straight from his parents house to living with you? I bet he did. He’s just substituting his mother for you.

I suggest you stop doing his laundry. He’ll soon buck up his ideas when he has no clean clothes. Then once you have his attention you can start proper house training.

Damn dude!

Wait did he tell you you only look "okay" without makeup or someone else?

Because if he's not the one that said it, I don't think it's fair to assign motivation to one night where you got dressed up, went out, had a good time, and he paid attention to you.

If the night out is an unusual or special thing then it's definitely very normal for there to be added attention. If you want him to be more reassuring about your normal appearance because you're nervous over things other have said, then tell him that.

But if he's the one who told you you're a bombshell with makeup and only alright without it then that's a crap partner who's making you feel bad and should be dealt with accordingly.

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