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If you end things, you're just putting yourself out there into the ocean of losers and creeps. Three weeks, no exclusivity agreement, I think you are being premature.

When he first mentioned NYE, you should've said "let's think of something fun to do that night!"

Oh wait so he’s never sweet at all unless you doll yourself up? That’s kind of crappy then.

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He doesn't respect you. He thinks he's entitled to have you do whatever he wants. He does not consider you an equal partner whose feelings are as important as his. The reason he's dating someone so much younger than himself is that he can treat you like this and you'll accept it instead of having the confidence to demand respect.

It’d be nice if he was sweet with me even if I didn’t spend hours getting ready. It’s not like he calls me ugly but he just doesn’t really say anything

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Not according to the law.

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It’s very important to me. And I think that’s it. That he isn’t a planner. But that’s what’s confusing to me… how do I care less about those things? They’re SUPER important to me. Especially in the beginning of a relationship & I never got it.

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You're not boring, you just have different interests. It's only been 5 months, it sounds like you're just not compatible and your relationship has reached its natural end.

Sge needs therapy and you need to tell his wife. Your friend doesn't give a rats ass about his wife or herself. Tell the wife and wake your friend up!

He's telling you (unconsciously maybe) that he likes the well put together look. My advice? Relax when you want to, but sometimes also go all out for him.

You've been on 3 dates with the guy. You're not bf/gf. He was upfront about the fact that he has plans for NYE and, due to the party being hosted by others, he doesn't feel right inviting you. So no, it's not only not right for you to "expect" anything at the moment, to even think of trying to push a "but I'm seeing the guy and he wants to spend time with others" would be a total red flag for me.

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He does make me happy.. in other ways. He’s kind and does the dishes. He’s super supportive. He wants kids & I don’t right now, and he makes sure I know that I don’t need to do anything I don’t want to.

It sounds like he isn't a planner. Lots of people arnt. It also sounds like he won't change since you already told him about it. But it does sound like he has other positive qualities. Does he show you he loves you in other ways?

I think being "distraught" over him not planning special outings seems a little extreme to me. But if its that important to you then maybe he's not the right guy for you.

I don’t get it. You dressed up fancy and he showed you extra attention. Isn’t that the goal of dressing up?