Time for you to make him your ex, he is longing for a relationship with his female friend and your just the stop gap until he wears her down enough to date him.

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What would you tell your best friend if her bf was treating her like that?
Get out. Waste no more time on someone that treats you like 💩. You deserve better. Do not say “but I love him”, “but we’ve been together for so long”. People who love each other treat one another w respect always. KNOW YOUR WORTH.

And who's responsible for baby then?

Because you put up with it for 7 years and married him anyway. Why would he change? He already has what he wants. Unfortunately, what he wants isn't to make you happy.

Well, the worst that could happen is she says no, or I don't like you that way, or something. The best that could happen? The sky's the limit.

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When it’s time to say good bye, position yourself away from him, or with someone in between. Then don’t hug anyone, wave good bye and leave. He can’t hug you if he’s not close enough. Do that a few times and he’ll get the picture.

You sound like my best friend 😂😂 I get it lol. You make the plan in advanced and the day of you're like "why did I do that". Gotta make day of plans(no time to cancel) with yall 😂😂

Yeah, just come up with something that she'd like to do. It's better than "I'm not going but also don't know what we could do instead".

Don't date people who are mean to you.

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I see.. that’s so unfortunate..

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My ex husband had an ex girlfriend who did this. 6 months before we got together she said she was pregnant then 2 weeks later said j/k found the guy. Then 4/5 years later said hey she deserves to know her dad but only through social media so let me stalk you there. I told her that we will get dna through the court and if he is the dad then we will go for A psych evaluation of her and custody. She got scared and blocked us. That was 2011. In 2019 the “dad” who raised her got her a dna and said no more child support but I’ll hang out with you if you want. So she went looking for my ex. He was paying me child support to me so he told her to wait until 18 because of his job (he didn’t want to pay her support). Turns out she’s his! And I have guilt knowing that the mom abandoned her with the grandparents shortly after I spoke to the mom in 2011. Her life would have been better and she would have been raised with her half siblings. But the kids all love each other and enjoy hanging out and talking on the phone. I would threaten her with court ordered dna and do it and get her out of your life if she’s lying. If the kid is his get the kid in a custody agreement so she can’t play games!

I am going to put this as gently as possible. That kind of behavior is not ok. In the context of the age gap, recognizing i know very little about yall, your relationship does not sound good. At all. You need to really try to be objective and think about what youre doing here, why, and whether you think it is sustainable.