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Reply to [28M][25F] How do I tell my girlfriend I don’t want to go to a party tonight? by ishouldvoicemario

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Corgi_Cake t1_j2f37jg wrote

Reply to [22f][25m] Is this because of depression and if so is there anything I could do, or should I give space, or is she just not interested anymore? by [deleted]

Pretty consistent with what you might see from someone with a depressive disorder - though there are many forms, and people exhibit symptoms differently. In the long term it would help to learn as much as you can about the topic.

The question isn't whether or not shes interested. The question is whether or not you can handle the emotional rollercoaster of being with someone that doesn't have their mental state under control. Thats up for you to decide.

When the opportunity to broach the subject presents itself, have a heart to heart conversation about the confusion and anxiety it causes you. The minimum she should provide is an idea of what to expect in the future, and how to best to approach the relationship when shes not feeling well. Asking how to support her is a good thing to do. You should also express your own needs and expectations.

If she isn't even able to have that conversation, then its time to move on. She isn't ready for a relationship and you aren't obligated to stick around while she works on herself.

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k-Unsolicited t1_j2f340d wrote

Reply to [27 F] [26 M] I don't want to hug my new male friend any more by ThrowRA_hugmenot

This is ehbhh because Theo has set a precedent that everyone hugs hello and goodbye... then when Theo wasn't there and he hugged you, you didn't stop it.

Sooo (for future reference, set boundaries early. This convo could have been sooo much easier if you never let him hug you. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to be hugged)

You'd have to say something along the lines of "This isn't personal but I'd prefer if you didn't hug me. [You can explain why you'd hug Theo and not him if you want]"

I mean it might be kind of weird if he hugs everyone but you or if he sees Theo hug you after your conversation with gun, but I guess that isn't your problem 🤷

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Educational_Ad2579 OP t1_j2f30nm wrote

Reply to comment by biteme717 in [33m][33f] - I've been developing feeling towards an engaged female co-worker and she has reciprocating feelings, or so I think, what should I do? by Educational_Ad2579

Maybe I am, but I know and witnessed first hand how the other person treats her and that he makes her walk on foot from home to work every day (40 minute walk) through blazing sun to heavy rain and she wont accept any help just for the fear of his reaction.

And its not just me noticing that.

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MossValley t1_j2f300a wrote

Reply to [26NB] [28M] My best friend outed me to his girlfriend and doesn’t maintain our friendship anymore. Where do I go from here? by [deleted]

I'm sorry he outed you. It's super common for couples to tell eachother everything. Not that it's right but it is common. It's also common for couples to spend all their time together. Especially in the beginning. Try not to take it personally. It's not about you. As long as you're not too angry I'm certain he will still make an effort to be your friend but your friendship will be different.

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Jimi204 t1_j2f2zdn wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in (34F)(32M) Why men play stupid when you call them out? by ThrowRAgreenapple

Why can’t a guy be attracted to more than one type of woman? It’s not hard to understand. He’s obviously attracted to you sexually. If he wasn’t, I don’t see how he’d even be able to perform. If you only have one type, that’s cool, but it’s not uncommon for both men and women to have more than one

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ThrowRAbeachgirl2903 OP t1_j2f2ywr wrote

Reply to comment by Due-Leadership-3530 in [27M] [28F] my boyfriend claims he isn’t ‘allowed’ to have sleep overs. by ThrowRAbeachgirl2903

I’m not too sure about this one because I’ve had the homo sexual conversation with him and he claims he isn’t and is very ‘straight’. His had guys hit on him before though. Just to clarify: his mum and I get along. I actually am quite good with parents. She just had very strict rules that her 3 kids abide by

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Jayismybro t1_j2f2ucl wrote

Reply to [27 F] [26 M] I don't want to hug my new male friend any more by ThrowRA_hugmenot

You could pull him aside sometime and explain that you don’t feel comfortable being hugged. Or text him. I mean you could try and awkwardly dodge the hug, but talking is better. Make sure to be firm on your boundaries, you deserve to be comfortable around people, even if it makes them sad/upset. A decent adult will respect boundaries.

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